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To Hyphenate, or Not to Hyphenate

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Lexi, on September 24, 2018 at 4:21 PM

Hi everyone! BAM and loving every minute . I'm heading to the SSA tomorrow to change my name on my social and I'm really torn! I've been saying for the longest time that I would hyphenate my name- First, Maiden-Last on license etc. The more I write it out, the more I'm ok with just having my...

Hi everyone!

BAM and loving every minute .

I'm heading to the SSA tomorrow to change my name on my social and I'm really torn!

I've been saying for the longest time that I would hyphenate my name- First, Maiden-Last on license etc. The more I write it out, the more I'm ok with just having my married name and not hyphenating. But, I'm having a hard time saying goodbye to my maiden name (it sounds good and it's a big part of my identity).

That being said, it's a mouthful; both my maiden name and married name are pretty long (6-7 letters) and my first name (full, not nickname) is even longer! I know when I'm talking to someone I can call myself whatever I want, but I'm so stuck on what I want to be my permanent name for everything (documents etc). Plus, my thought is that it makes it easier for loans etc (and before anyone gets in a tizzy, YES I'm taking my husbands name regardless).

My mom had hyphenated and she said it was a pain in the butt...what do you think? how many hyphenated and what are pros and cons?

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VIP October 2018
Sara P. · on September 24, 2018 at 7:13 PM
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I didn't want to drop my middle name to change it to my maiden name either but just dropping my maiden name seemed wrong too. I decided to just have two middle names.
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Tessa · on September 24, 2018 at 7:33 PM
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It's an interesting idea. I was thinking of hyphenating my name. My maiden name and how I'm raised is why I have my education. I like my middle name too, moms favorite actress Katherine Hepburn. I would almost keep it the same but he would like me to take his name, though we could discuss more. Never considered moving maiden name to a second middle name.

Still I would hate to have to go back to documents to change name after marriage. Thanks for sharing and ill keep track for more input.
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MIWM · on September 24, 2018 at 7:52 PM
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I'm in the same boat. I love my last name and have been thinking about hyphenating it. I also love my middle name and do not want to remove it. decisions... decisions...
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Master July 2018
Cuoghi · on September 24, 2018 at 8:14 PM
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Dont change your name at all. There is no need to. Love isnt in a name.
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WED18 · on September 24, 2018 at 8:15 PM
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As someone who has worked in financing over 30 years, I have to agree that hyphenating can be troublesome when filling out credit applications and pulling credit reports.
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Kristen · on September 24, 2018 at 8:17 PM
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This is what I'm doing. I've never cared about my middle name so I'm just scrapping it altogether. I really like this option because I get to share my husband's name but also don't fully lose mine. Apparently doing it this way this is becoming really common
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Master July 2018
Cuoghi · on September 24, 2018 at 8:17 PM
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Changing your name is such an archaic practice going back to women being property owned by mean. Slaves were given their master's last name. Would a guy change his name? Most likely no.
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Dedicated September 2018
Lexi · on September 25, 2018 at 9:17 AM
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As much as I love my maiden name adding it to my middle name would make my full legal name over 40 letters long soooo I’m good on that lol. And as far as scrapping my middle name, my maiden name sounds awful as a middle name hahaha (just too Italian). I’ve decided not to hyphenate for paperwork and ease of it all in the future, but on social media etc I’ll be hyphenating.
I totally get not wanting to change your name at all too, but out of respect for mine and my husbands values I’m taking his name. I also work in a school where the kids and both parents all have different last names and it is the absolute worst when doing anything.
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