To include or to not include grooms family?

All of this because you were asked to move your seats? I have to be honest, that hardly seems worth it. Not saying you aren't entitled to your feelings, but boy did everyone let things irrationally spiral out of control from there. That being said, I guess my advice is that your wedding is almost two years away, and a LOT can happen between now and then. Hopefully for the better! I'd probably start with your FH and his sister sitting down and hashing out whatever happened, one-on-one, when tempers have softened and the time seems right. Figuring out who will be invited to an event two years from now shouldn't be the priority...healing should be (or at least exhausting that effort) and then making a decision closer to your date.

This is a tough one what are your thoughts? I feel like you don't invite them then this is going to cause future problems for you and your husband, for example when you have kids, However, I have found a new freedom of not inviting anyone to weddings who you don't want there. I think either way you are in the right, however I don't think you need to invite them to be apart of your wedding party only your dearest family friends should be in the wedding party

I agree that it's pretty difficult to interpret all of those details as anything other than senseless drama on all sides. But the bottom line is that none of the OP mentions whether her future spouse wants to invite his family to his wedding or not, and it really should be his call.

I also agree that, with so much time before the wedding, the focus should be on repairing relationships outside of a wedding context. The wedding is only one day, but family relationships ideally last a lifetime.

It certainly may be that your future spouse isn't able to repair his relationship with his family. None of us can make anyone else get along, after all. But if he feels it's worth the effort, then he should keep trying. Revisit who to invite to your wedding when you get closer to the event itself.

I was about to give the same advice. This is your FH's decision, OP, not yours. Let him deal with his family.

You're welcome! Families can be such a pain-in-the-you-know-what to deal with. Not fun! I have a feeling that if he decides to exclude his family, you guys won't miss them very much. Congrats, and good luck to the two of you!

Agree with this.

I will add there seems to be a lot of drama for no reason here, possibly on both sides. My advice is to draw boundaries and in future take a very large step back from this family. Interact with them on your terms and "grey rock" all the drama. That means don't raise the drama level by giving them a response.

I would extend an invitation to them to the wedding if you want them there. Not inviting them out of spite is not going to make this situation any better and will further drive a wedge between your fiance and his family (who all seem to be in support of the sister and not your fiance).

I understand that being asked to move seats would be hurtful, but I also understand that with limited seats only so many can sit at a table. It sounds like there were no assigned tables at the reception/dinner venue (poor choice), and that's on the couple for not planning better. I can understand feeling hurt, and understand bride thinking its her day and asking you to move was NBD. However uninviting you to wedding event #2 but expecting fiance to go is just petty and rude. The fact that her family supports this behavior clearly supports her entitlement.

How does your fiance feel? It is his family after all. I would defer any expectations to him and support him how best you can. Not including his sister and her husband in your wedding party sounds like a good move, but you might still wish to include them as guests if your fiance wants them there or you think it will avoid family drama.

Yes, let your fiance take the lead on this one, but support however you can. If neither of you want them there, then not including them is certainly an option. It sounds like the family favors the sister anyway. I would typically caution against further fanning the flames, but if the bridge is already burned, there isn't much to salvage.

I agree that asking you to move seats when already established was super rude and you being a little antisocial afterward totally makes sense. That could have been the end of it though. Them "uninviting" you from a wedding was just too much, and expecting your fiance to still go and thrusting him in the middle is just so selfish and awful. You don't owe them or the family (who has supported and indulged those behaviors) anything.

I'm sorry you and your fiance are having to deal with this. Definitely support whatever he decides.