To Invite or Not

I was invited to an engagement party, but not the wedding. The wedding was out of state and kept small to close family and friends, which I wasn't. So the engagement party was for co-workers and friends that they knew would probably not be able to. Understandable for budget, plus I hadn't talked to them at all between engagement party and wedding, so totally makes sense.

I've heard of this rule as well, but I think your situation is different. The fact that it has been two years in between and things/relationships have changed, I would say no, you are not obligated to invite them.

If you don’t talk to them at all I assume it’s ok with you if they’re not in your life anymore? You don’t have to invite them if you’re ok with them potentially being annoyed and losing them in your life... if you literally don’t talk to them anymore then that shouldn’t matter lol. But just something to keep in mind if you think there’s a chance you may want to be friends again in the future.

As long as you're ok with not being friends with them again. It's really poor taste to invite people to pre-wedding parties who are not invited to the actual wedding. I would still invite these people - if you're not that close anymore, they probably won't even come.

I'd still invite them unless you are okay with the friendship being over.

Did you throw the party or did someone throw it for you? I always felt like that was tricky because how does someone else know who you are inviting to the wedding! We didn’t finalize that list until invites went out! Lol

If you've moved on from your friendship with them then you don't need to invite them

If they are family you still have to invite them to the wedding but if they are a friend you drifted from then don't invite them to the wedding

I think it’s ok not to invite them in that case.