To redo or not to redo

No, I don't. I absolutely love tiny weddings or elopements.

Covid caused us to cancel our reception and just elope. Honestly it stung at first and I wondered if I’d ever be able to get over it, but I love how special and intimate our elopement was. I am at the point where I do not feel the desire to re-plan our reception during Covid. The stress of it and the money spent on a reception that will not even be close to what we want is what sealed it for me.

I feel you! Our wedding is in December. We asked out of state guests not to travel due to Covid. All the celebrations (engagement celebration, bridal shower, etc) were canceled. And we just found out 35 days before our wedding that the restaurant we chose to host our reception will not be reopening in time. I’m defeated. I told my fiancé at this point I just want the ceremony at the church and move on.

Our original date was 11/14/20, postponed to 11/5/21. We decided to have a small ceremony this year on 11/5 just parents and siblings. We held it in my parents yard with 11 people total. It was gorgeous and I’m so happy to be married. BUT I’m sad I didn’t get the wedding experience. And I know next year we’ll have it, and it’ll be our one year anniversary as well, I’m just afraid if I’ll lose interest or if anyone else will. I still want to walk down the aisle and say I do in front of loved ones, I want the first dance and all those other formalities. I just hope it stays special. I’ve been a little down thinking about it and I feel bad even saying that since I should be jumping for joy to be a wife.

In same Boat. We got married May 2nd 2020 in our backyard with just immediate family. We postpone the large party to October 2020 and due to limits we decided to postpone to August 2021. At this point we decided to move forward accepting the whatever N.Y. restrictions are in place and whatever happens, happens. Thankfully it has opened up to allow more guest, with Covid testing. So I am not excluding friends and family To keep wishing limit. But to plan this celebration all over again, I’m looking at it as a redo to get things I actually wanted ( more flowers because my centerpiece has no flowers, I had to get new favors due to food expiration Etc.). But also somethings feel less special or Covid tainted ( dress, but I will rewear it, maybe add something to make it feel different). Also been trying to find alternatives to things we already did, like a ring exchange ( if anyone has ideas).

It’s hard to be excited again, and thought of canceling multiple times, but I don’t want to regret not doing a redo. I am looking at it as a vow renewal and celebrate everything that is good! Wish you the best!