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To Register or Not to Register

Gnomi28, on December 4, 2019 at 10:28 AM Posted in Registry 0 12

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My fiance and I have lived together for over 2 years now. We own a house under both of our names and we have most everything we need. We are having a destination wedding in Las Vegas and then a local reception back at home a month later. I am wondering if we should make a registry or not. I wasn't planning on it originally because everyone knows we already live together, and I'd feel bad making a registry when 75% of the guests are only invited to the reception and not the wedding itself. But a lot of family is suggesting we make a registry (although those family members are going to both the destination wedding and the local reception.) Has anyone else gone through this or have any thoughts on what we should do?

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Latest activity by Gnomi28, on January 30, 2020 at 6:20 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on December 4, 2019 at 10:31 AM
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People are going to give you gifts. So if there are physical items that you want or need, register. If not, most people will gift cash.
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Cyndy · on December 4, 2019 at 11:01 AM
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We were in a similar situation. We didn’t register because we already have a home and everything that we need and also had a DW and certainly did not want to have to carry gifts back. People will know if you were not registered to give you money or a gift card if they are going to give you anything at all
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Devoted March 2019
Katie · on December 4, 2019 at 11:03 AM
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Definitely make the registry! My now-husband and I were in the same boat, where we had lived together nearly 2 years before getting engaged and 3 by the time we were married, but it doesn't just have to be the basic household items!

1. Honeymoon registry! You can totally personalize this so that guests still feel like they are gifting you something you really want. If you're staying in Vegas you could ask for "$X for a dinner at The Top of the World" "$X to try your hand at blackjack in Caesars Palace" "$X for a show/concert/etc" so it feels less like just sending money and more personal for gift-givers
2. Experiences or subscription boxes - we chose a day at a local white water rafting center, movie theater/Fandango giftcard, wine of the month club subscription
3. We definitely did have some household items that we either wanted or wanted to update. Go for a new sheet set, towels, updated barware, or that cool funky statement piece that would totally tie the room together

Happy planning
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Noelle · on December 4, 2019 at 11:03 AM
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Agreed with pp, i made a small registry because a few people asked. But I put just a few truly needed/wanted items. Most people did not ask and just gave money.
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Melle · on December 4, 2019 at 11:30 AM
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You could register for items you need upgraded on or just don't register and people likely would give cash.
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Expert September 2020
Marcia · on December 4, 2019 at 11:33 AM
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We made a small registry. New sheets, some new towels, an air fryer.

I’m 44 and he’s 46 and we each had our own house so we already had most things we need.
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Jmz · on December 4, 2019 at 12:22 PM
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We'll have moved together for 5 and a half years by the time we're married so we're just gonna go the honeymoon fund route. Plus it's "destination" in my hometown and we live out of the country so I hope guests realize we can't use big items. Lol...
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Jmz · on December 4, 2019 at 12:23 PM
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Lived* together... Oops
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Devoted November 2020
Kayla · on December 4, 2019 at 1:05 PM
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FH and I will have lived together for almost two and half years before we're married. I planned on registering for things we want and to replaced the essentials. Nothing big since we both prefer cash, but something for those wanting to give an actual gift.
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Lady · on December 4, 2019 at 1:41 PM
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Agree with Caytlyn. Register if there is anything physical you want, otherwise people will generally gift you cash.
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Eyonna · on December 5, 2019 at 4:35 PM
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FH and I live together for 7 years now; however, we (well I) was starting to look into getting our kitchen redone before he proposed. We are covering the cost of our wedding ourselves so I did a Home Renovation registry. Otherwise we didn't register and didn't feel the need to register. Is there something that you'd like to do inside your home; renovation wise or maybe you would like to do something in Vegas, like a PP has said.
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Savvy September 2020
Gnomi28 · on January 30, 2020 at 6:20 PM
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Thank you everyone for your responses! We have decided to make a small registry on Amazon. But deep down, we just hope for money. 😂 Congrats on all of your upcoming weddings or recent ones!
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