To "shoe game" or not ?

I went to a wedding where this was done and absolutely loved it! I'm doing it at my wedding, too, and also skipping the bouquet and garter toss.

As FB99 mentioned it is a know your crowd type of game. I have known for a while I will be playing it at my wedding but it is not the popular opinion among WW. I suggested it for my uncle's wedding last minute and it was a huge success. My family loved it! It had us all laughing the entire time. I put the list of questions together so they were not too invasive or awkward

I personally love it when they do this at weddings. Some questions can be funny, and some just down right endearing and sweet.

I think it's a know your crowd kind of thing. I wouldn't personally do it, but I've seen it done and it's OK.

Some commenters have FEELINGS about this.

I actually quite enjoy this game. As long as it's not too long and the questions aren't super embarrassing. I'm not sure if I will do it but I'm not opposed.

Classless? Man that's harsh.

I've seen it done twice, one at a wedding and one at the engagement party. I thought both were cute, but I knew the Bride and groom pretty well.

I think if you do it, the key is to keep the questions to a minimum (no more than 8-10 questions)

ETA: skip super embarrassing questions. Do not ask "who likes it on top" lmao.

I agree to know your crowd. I am not into games at a wedding (and I love games) but to me it feels as though there is so much pressure to entertain people when a wonderful reception where people can talk and or dance is enough. If you do it, keep it quick and PG rated.

Would I find this entertaining as a guest, no. But would I appalled and embarrassed, not in the least. I would just continue to eat my meal and sip my drink.

When I first started planning my wedding I was not planning on doing this because I thought it would be tacky. But as time got closer my DJ recommended it because where we live it became a thing that people started doing. So a few weeks before the wedding we decided we would do it. My guests loved it and the game was maybe 5-10 minutes and it was super fun questions!

No extras for us here...no garter toss, or bouquet toss, or games. Just ceremony, pictures, food, drinks, cake, and dancing!

Our coordinator keeps asking me about this. I don't want to do it. Her comment this weekend: "Are you sure you don't want to? You have an hour of just dancing..." what's wrong with dancing?

I went to a wedding and totally loved watching the game. You can control what questions get asked.

I originally wanted it but I feel like time is limited so I'm probably going to leave it out.

I have only seen them online, but they seem like fun.

I think the shoe game is ridiculous, and only narcissistic couples would do it. Its all about them. Sounds to me like the band wants a break.

I am not doing this. I feel like this is more of a bridal shower party. The wedding (In my opinion) is for celebrating with drinking, dancing and chatting. It seems like it would take up a lot of time that you need to make rounds and make sure you talk to everyone along with eating, dancing and spending time with your new husband.