To write your vows or to repeat your officiant

My husband and I both wrote our own vows. They weren't long but both of us were almost crying as we read them. It was perfect for us. 🥰

We both wrote our own vows and it was really special! We looked at the structure of different vows that our pastor sent us, and looked up information online, so we had some points that each of us should make. (For example, I included why I love him, how I’ve seen each of us grow, what my intent is, and giving thanks to God for leading us together and recognizing the that he’s our foundation.) There were sweet things my husband shared, and things that made me laugh, it was great! Also, you can have them written down and kept with your officiant, so even if you are nervous, it’ll be right there for you to read off of. Side note, I used to have major anxiety talking in front of people, luckily pretty comfortable with it now, but even still, people don’t really know you’re nervous unless you say it. So have fun with it and enjoy your beautiful day!! God bless 💗

My FH gets extreme anxiety about public speaking, so we decided to do the traditional “recite back“ vows. We will be writing letters to one another and exchanging them that morning though, so we will still get the personal “vow” experience… just not in front of people.

We didn’t write our vows. We just spoke from the heart. My fiancé had notes but never looked at them. We just wanted that movement to be authentic as possible.

Definitely writing our own vows. Public speaking is a breeze for both of us, and both being former teachers we're pretty comfortable composing speeches. PLUS, I really really really want to make this personal and about US, our adventures and growth, and also ..... lots of fun. I'm super excited about this part of the wedding ceremony.

We are having a religious ceremony so we ll be reciting vows from the priest but we will both be writing out a card with a personal message/vow in it. I kinda like that the really personal ones will be just for us but whatever you do it will be special

We're having a Catholic ceremony, so we'll be repeating back the traditional vows. We're both planning to write notes to each other to exchange before the ceremony that will be sort of like what we would have written as our vows had that been an option.

We are repeating back traditional vows. There is a lot about our wedding that is untraditional, so we are enjoying the idea of pressure-free, classic words sealing our union.

View Quoted Comment Yes I feel the same way of doing the traditional way but when he told me that. He may write his vows I was shocked and smiling to hear him say that he wants to. Congratulations to you both

View Quoted Comment Ok that's all good that you will have notes to each other is thoughtful and heartfelt. Thank you so much sharing your comments with us.

View Quoted Comment Hi that is a very nice thing of writing a note to one another to give those special moments of sharing your excitement and love for each other on that day. Congratulations to both of you

View Quoted Comment Ok yes then you guys will breeze right thru this when the time comes. And yes it will be a exciting time. And I feel the same way knowing that he still wants to write something he is alittle shy but for him to want to do it I am over the moon about and now even more excited anguish about what he will say to me. Congratulations to you both and thank you for sharing your comments with us

View Quoted Comment Yes that was nice that you both was able to say your vows to one another off script. Thank you so much for sharing with us

View Quoted Comment Hi lol yes see some can do it and some can't because they maybe nervous about speaking on front of ppl. But once you focus on your person then it can roll off with no problem. So think the same but he will but just incase we dont we will write our vows and then we still have the option to recite them from the officiant. Thank you for sharing your comments with us Congratulations to you both

View Quoted Comment Hi Amanda that was very nice what you and your husband did for your vows. And thank you so much for those tips and tricks for our vows I will write mines down anyway just in case. Thank you for sharing your comments with us

View Quoted Comment Hi Grace thank you for sharing your comments with us. That's all that matters however he wants to give say them it's fine with me. Both I know will crying as we say them he already melts my heart always

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We are planning to recite back vows as my SO has anxiety and I don't want to cry through the ceremony LOL. I think whether you recite, or read your own, both are really moving and beautiful ways to do the ceremony.

View Quoted Comment Yes this is true it's a tear jerker for me if we do recite our own. To hear his heart felt feelings and him looking at me with this raw emotion. I didn't think that he thought about it at all but he surprised me again. He even picked our first dance too 🥰🥰I'm in such ah of this man of mine

We're doing both, going to say or own vows then officiant will take over and go through the do you take this woman to be your wife verbiage.

View Quoted Comment Ok its nice that you are taking part of the vows and making it your own. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us.