Too late to add to my bridal party?

Was she aware that your bridal brunch happened and you asked your bridal party there? If so, she may feel left out and like an after thought. I think the best route to take would be to talk to her & let her know how you feel & how you felt at the time. She can either say yes or no. But you still have a year before your wedding so it's definitely enough time

If she doesn't know there was a big brunch production, she'll never know she was an add-on. If she does know about the brunch, that could be sticky. Hopefully she is mature enough to just be happy to be there with you!

It’s strongly advised to not ask anyone before a year. Relationships change and there are many posts asking how to fire a bridesmaid who was asked before 10 months before the wedding because the bride picked the wrong people too early. There really isn’t anything they need to do before 9-10 months so they aren’t asked until that point.


Are you BFFs with sister in law? If not, don’t ask out of obligation to please someone else whose opinion is irrelevant. I personally would not ask her. Also keep in mind that not everyone finds being a bridesmaid enjoyable nor can everyone afford it and would prefer to be a guest.
If you have fears of mother in law taking over planning, you and fiancé need to set and maintain boundaries as a team with consequences. Asking sister in law to be a bridesmaid as a way to prevent that is asking her for the wrong reasons.

I asked all my bridesmaids in Jan and Feb (all individually). I had contemplated asking FH's younger cousin (will be 17 by the time of the wedding) but was hesitant cause I didn't know how her dad would feel about her being involved in the bachelorette and whatnot.

Her and I were hanging out about a month ago and she brought up me not asking her (in a joking way) and I explained that I wanted to but I didn't know if her dad would be OK with it, he was there and said "Of course she can, I was surprised you didn't ask her to begin with" so I asked her.

She didn't get the box all my other bridesmaids did, but was just as happy as if she did, all she wanted was to stand next to me on my day.

I'm also worried about FMIL trying to grab the reigns of wedding planning so I just told FH's cousin to keep everything she knows on the DL away from FMIL, which she's agreed to.