Too young???

You know your relationship and your partner better than anyone. There are people who have been together for 10 years and get married and divorced in a year. There are people who meet get married in a week and stay married thirty years. You just never know. You guys need to do what’s best for you. If you want to get married and you feel like your financially, emotionally and spiritually ready then do it. It’s really only up to you.

If you know then you know.



I understand what your brothers are saying. I was a completely different person in my early 20s than I am now in my 30s. And I’m glad I never married my boyfriend from my early 20s because we grew up as very different people. So I get what they mean. At the same time, if you are confident in what you want then go for it. Don’t let anyone get in your way of happiness!

My fiancé is 22 about to be 23 and I just turned 22 a few weeks ago. We have definitely heard the “but they’re so young” phrase but honestly like pp have said we know the relationship better than anyone! There are people who get married younger than us that are together their whole life, so I’m not really convinced there is a “right” age to get married just try to brush it off! Honestly we hear that phrase mostly from young people our age which is funny. I think it’s their problem for viewing marriage as a bad thing IMO. Thankfully we met the love of our life young and we get to grow TOGETHER! Hope this helps ❤️

Age really shouldn’t be a factor in being ready for marriage. If you’re already living together and know you want to get married in the future anyway, then why wait? My FH and I are both 23 and I will be getting married a few weeks after my 24th bday (I really don’t think we’re that young). The only people who make age a big deal are his family members who haven’t wanted us to really be together in the first place or who have been really negative from the start. But they’re also the people who know our relationship the least and culturally think he should wait til he’s like 30 to get married. There’s nothing wrong with being 30 and getting married, but why should we wait just bc they think we’re too young? My parents were both 21 when they got married and people get married young all the time and have great marriages! I would not let that stop you if you both feel ready! I wish you guys the best!

View Quoted Comment My parents knew each other for a week before my dad proposed and they’ve been together for more than 30 years now!

View Quoted Comment Yes thanks so much! I have friends that just think it’s so crazy, but I have friends that have been married and have several kids! I’m just excited to marry the person I love!

Personally, I think time spent together and experiencing things together is more important than age. You've been together three years, had a long distance relationship, lived together, and cared for pets together, which all show that your relationship is pretty mature. FH and I got engaged at 22/23 after being together all 4 years of college, and we are doing a long engagement while buying a house together and saving up for a wedding. A longer engagement might be a good option for you too, but that's up to you! Either way, I don't think you are "too young" if you feel you have shared enough life experiences together.

I was 16, DH was 21 when we dated. I got pregnant at 17 and we eloped. EVERYONE gossiped that we would never make it. It wasn’t easy. In fact, it was so hard I almost gave up.


Well, this year would be our 23 years of our elopement, and we will have our vow renewed. This time, no rush, no pressure.

I got engaged at 21 and married at 22, 2 weeks ago and my husband is 23. We’ve only been together about a year and a half. And the first 8 months of our relationship was long distance. When you’re ready, you’re ready

If you know you know. I will be 22 and my FH will be 28 when we get married later this year.

We got engaged when I was 23 so I definitely heard the “so young” thing too. We were also long distance for a few years of our relationship and lived together for less than a year before getting engaged. He is 6 years older than me so he didn’t get the same “are you sure” responses. I just don’t listen when people act shocked or make comments about the fact that I’m married and 25 lol. There isn’t some perfect age of when people are ready to be married, it depends on the individuals and the relationship they have together.

I'll be 24 and he'll be 22. Some people definitely think we're young, but for the most part everyone has been very encouraging and supportive. Sometime all you can do with the haters is prove them wrong.

If you and your partner feel that you are ready to get married and are in a good spot to get married, then do it! My brother and his wife got married at 22.

My parents got engaged at 19 and 23 just 6 weeks after their first date. They married 5 months later and are going on their 29th anniversary. My younger brother and his wife got married at 23 and had been dating since they were 15. My fiance and i just got engaged after dating for 4 years of dating and we are in our late 20's. It doesn't matter what age you are or how long you've been dating. Other people's opinions don't matter because they don't know your relationship.

I got engaged at 19 and I'll be 20 when I get married. When you know, you know. If you feel ready and mature enough to handle it, I don't see how it's anyone elses business.

I feel you. I am 21 & my FH is 25. There are some people who will be surprised that you are ready to commit at a young age but I agree with everyone that commented-- when you know, you know. If you feel that your partner is the person who you want to share your life with, then the only person that needs to be sure is you. Marriage is a commitment that will require work, but I feel like if you love the person and can't imagine life without them, then I don't see why you should wait. Plus you are living with you partner, and that is already a glimpse of what married life will be like. You are both mature adults who are ready to take the next step, so don't doubt your feelings.

It seems like you've both been through a lot, have lived together and have pets so It may help your marriage in the long run. Another thing to consider is that you, your BF or both may both change as you get older; as long as you both grow and mature together and keep good communication, it will make your relationship stronger. This goes for any marriage.

My fiancé and I will both be 20 when we get married this year. Definitely on the younger side for our society's standards, but like everyone else said, when you know you know. We're both mature for our age, are financially stable, and don't feel like waiting for the "right age" when we know it's the right time now. We both value the same things and although a lot of people say they change throughout the years (which is true) I don't see us changing enough to separate. We've known each other for 6 years and have always grown together. Our families definitely know we are young, but they are completely supportive and happy for us. If your families are as supportive as mine, you'll be totally fine! And my mother was kind of weary about it at first (even though she knew it was coming and gave her blessing) but now she's processed it and is excited for us. I don't think 23 is young to get married at all, as long as you know you're with the right person that's all that matters!

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It's really exciting to know that I won't be the only 20 year old getting married, haha!

View Quoted Comment I was lucky, as my parents were my age when they got married, so I got no judgement from them haha. We've gotten little to know grief from anyone over this.