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Elizabeth
Super June 2021

Top Advice for New Brides and Grooms

Elizabeth, on March 28, 2021 at 11:52 AM Posted in Planning 1 11
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I have been thinking about what I wish I knew before starting my wedding planning (and mistakes I made), and I thought it would be fun to collect our advice for people just starting out their planning. Here are my #1 tips:

1. Don't pick your wedding party until 6-9 months before your wedding.

2. Don't ask people for permission or input on your wedding. You pick the day, you pick the size of the guest list, you pick the wedding party. Don't share with people who don't absolutely need to know, and don't take unsolicited advice to heart.

3. Agree with your fiance to be a united front to family on all wedding decisions.

4. Have the wedding you can afford. Don't stretch yourself to where you have to hurt or disrespect your guests to make your day work (asking guests to cover costs of venue by buying rooms, excluding SOs from your guest list, etc)

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Latest activity by Liz, on March 28, 2021 at 11:26 PM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Yea! These are good tips Smiley smile
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  • Ava
    VIP May 2022
    Ava ·
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    Love this! The 2 main things I have learned so far are:
    1. It’s normal to get overwhelmed at first
    2. Expect the unexpected
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    Great advice!!! Totally agree with all of it, I wish I knew these things before I started planning my wedding as well.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Never do anything out of obligation. Invites, picking attendants, general planning. If it doesn't fit the vision and budget of what you and fiance want, don't do it.

    Have a wedding you and fiance can finance yourselves. Do not guests or parents to pay for anything. Including but not limited to anything at the reception (dinner, bar), honeymoon, venue, the list goes on.

    Stay true to who you and fiance are.

    Only invite those currently nearest and dearest whom you cannot imagine the day without.

    Follow proper etiquette and your guests will be happier.

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  • JM Sunshine
    August 2020
    JM Sunshine ·
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    *Do not be too eager to personalize items with dates on them...too many brides have had to postpone several times in the past year.
    *Currently outdoor receptions have less restrictions than indoor receptions (but then have to contend with weather)
    *Always have a Plan B
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  • Liz
    Devoted August 2021
    Liz ·
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    Don't use your personal email or business email, get your own wedding specific email address. MUCH easier to track all communication with your vendors, both you and your fiance can both have access to it, and you can cancel it once the wedding is done with. You get so much spam from companies you do business with or one's you were researching, especially if you go to a wedding show.

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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    NO is a complete sentence & doesn’t warrant an explanation!
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    Good advice for wedding planning and for life
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    This is a great idea, I wish I could go back in time and do this!
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    Haha we have items with a past date on them. Will have to try to fix them up haha. If I could go back in time, I would put the dates on a couple things *after*
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  • Liz
    Devoted August 2021
    Liz ·
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    Me too! I heard this advice WAY too late in the planning process, my inbox is overrun with wedding related spam now. Also we CC each other on all emails we send to vendors and it never fails that the vendor doesn't reply all so only one of us is receiving the message and we have to forward the email too each other. Having one dedicated email would have been amazing.
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