Tough Decision, i need help brides

Nah i'm sorry this is too much, IMO you sound like the stressful person not here. I showed my bridesmaids what type of dresses i'd like them in, and let them buy their own from whichever. my wedding is in less than 2 months i didn't even check in to ask. weddings are already stressful, I'm not about to stress myself over what OTHER people are wearing to MY wedding. and buying dresses so far away from the wedding date is insane. i had to tailor my wedding gown 3 times now because i lost and gained weight so many times, let alone your invitees. Remember it's supposed to be a happy day and celebration of love, not a presidential event where everyone has to follow some strict lame protocol. chill.

View Quoted Comment That's ur business and when everyone looks as dumb as your comment you will see why. Since you don't care she can be in your wedding. Why are you so mad about my wedding thoughts. IMO your bridesmaids will look messy and that sounds like what you want so you can look the best lol. NEXT!!

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Wow, if you act that way when strangers on the internet disagree with you, I can just imagine what your poor cousin has to deal with.

Your bridal party is supposed to be your honored guests. They are not your little minions to control and abuse.

View Quoted Comment All of my guest are honored guest. They're there to support the bride. When you step into a ring... be prepared to get knocked down. You can take my poor cousin too. Are you done...

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Thank you sandy !

I trust my friends enough to look put together, I'm not about to control ADULT women and dictate what they should wear and where to buy it from... it's absolutely insane ! I never understood this mentality. Some have shown me their dresses and I absolutely loved it others didn't and tbh.. i don't care. it's My wedding, I'm focusing on how I LOOK. poor cousin.

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What exactly do you need support for? You are getting married. No support is needed for that.

I am so sorry for anyone associated with this mess.

Look, you asked for advice and promptly rejected everyone that didn’t already agree with you. You can do what you want. It’s not like we’re going to stop you. But I don’t know what the point of this post was when your mind is very clearly already made up. No amount of insulting other people’s weddings is going to make everyone suddenly agree with you. Do what you always intended on doing and move on.

View Quoted Comment Another troll. Wasn't looking for you to agree. At first I wanted to make sure I wasn't making the wrong decision. After all yall bridal bashing comments. Yall can.....

View Quoted Comment It’s not bashing or trolling to disagree with you. You posted asking for advice and have insulted and belittled everyone who tried to give you a different perspective.

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Hi Nourhane! I did the same thing! I just picked out a color and let them choose whatever they felt beautiful and comfortable in... and it turned out perfect! Having everyone in the same color (or same color scheme) makes everything look cohesive, while still allowing your honored guests to be unique and feel comfortable/beautiful in their choices. So don't worry about it looking "messy"! I think the days of choosing one specific dress for all BMs to wear are over. It's fallen out of vogue, and tbh it just makes the wedding look dated (like wearing a fashion trend 3, 4, 5 years after the trend is over). These days, brides are much more focused on individuality in their weddings and truly honoring their wedding parties. Congrats on the upcoming wedding - it sounds like your WP is going to have a great experience!

It's understandable that you're feeling upset about the change in plans. Communication is key in these situations. Before making any decisions, have an open and honest conversation with your cousin. Share your concerns, explain the initial agreement, and ask for her perspective. It's possible she might not be aware of the impact on your plans. Finding a compromise or understanding her reasons may help resolve the situation without resorting to drastic measures. Remember, open dialogue can often lead to better understanding and resolution.

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Well you found the one person who agrees with you, so maybe take that as a win. You've ignored or put down others who don't agree so far in your thread, and it's telling me that you're honestly not interested in other opinions.

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It's not OK to call someone's comment dumb, and it sounds pretty rude honestly.

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Hi dear,

Oh, of course, I have full trust in my friends' choices, and I have my sister-in-law as a bridesmaid as well, she so kindly showed me some options and I helped her pick one out. Not all my friends showed me their choices but I trust their judgment, I know they will all look stunning on my wedding day and I look forward to it. I didn't want to impose any shops or dresses or set MY budget and let them be as comfortable as possible! One of my cousins is even borrowing one of MY dresses for the wedding and it didn't bother me lol

View Quoted Comment U def should not have any drama.

View Quoted Comment That's my point

View Quoted Comment No I'm just not interested in your opinion. I've allowed all of you to post your opinions but many of you have bashed me calling me names and other BS. I posted because I wasn't sure of how I wanted to go about it. It's giving weird. Many of you have selective reading as if I kicked you pr her out. I did my part I shouldn't have to keep defending myself because YOU People cannot give an opinion without trying to make me out to be the bad bride because MY dream is a destination wedding WITH STRUCTURE, and i shouldnt have to make yall feel better about my dreams. I don't want everyone looking whatever way because that's what yall chose to do. Idc. So to come at me because this is how I want it to be, calling me ridiculous because I have my own desires. Yall can go play in traffic. Some made respectful opinions that I didn't agree with and that's cool but get off me. If the shoe fits... tap dance in them....

I'm having a similar issue so I'm going to have a backup bridesmaid just in case.

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How does the back up bridesmaid feel about being back up? Like don't they feel like second choice? Why would you even need a back up? I'm confused about why this is necessary. It sounds problematic.

View Quoted Comment Yea I agree. I wanted an even number of bm and gm