Hello
My fiance and I planned to get married:
-at the courthouse and do legal paperwork in 2022. (discussed having immediate family witness)
-We also planned a destination wedding in Mexico 3 months after the courthouse date to have an official event.
-Followed a month later by a U.S, reception.
His family will not attend the destination wedding part due to not wanting to travel and some scared to travel. He knew this going in but was fine with the destination wedding. My family thinks I should have a wedding in the states so my older family can attend. I don't want to have a wedding in the states.
However, fast forward to recently. My only bridesmaid said she can't attend anymore due to health reasons. This sent me into a crying fit (after getting off the phone) only because it's been stressful planning during the pandemic. I already felt bad that I only have one bridesmaid since he hoped to have several groomsmen. Also means I have no one to plan a bachelorette for me and his friends are taking him on a bachelor trip.
I'm on the fence now if I should cancel the destination part but I also don't know what to replace it with if I do. I feel bad about canceling but if we do it now we won't owe anything and will lose only the $250 deposit we put down.
I feel this will be the first of more cancellations. We are contracted to pay for 12 people about 19 have accepted about 8 of those are my side of guests.
Or should I switch to a local wedding so that the family can attend? I don't even know where to start as far as venues, cost in such a short time. Destination wedding set for May and U.S. reception June.
