Tours

Honestly I really think this will depend on the venue - there are bad apples in every barrel, type thing, but I wouldn't go in assuming people will take advantage of you!

Everyone we toured with was lovely, and I wouldn't say we look like world-weary pessimists who couldn't possibly have the wool pulled over our eyes or anything, haha!

I guess my biggest tips would be to ask sensible questions, read any contract thoroughly before signing, and don't feel bad about asking questions you might worry are 'silly' - after all, most brides and grooms are doing it for the first time, so there's no expectation that you'll know how to do everything!

I would say that if a venue or venue representative gives you a bad impression, don't even give it a second chance. Either they are professionals or they are not. It is that simple.

Since you are worried about costs and taken advantage of, I suggest reaching out to the venue via email first. Title your email something generic along the lines of (last name) Wedding (Wedding year). When representatives and staff see that you are organized, it sets the tone.

Do not give them your budget right away. Just say that you are considering their venue, and (insert specific detail) that stood out. Do mention that you are considering booking early, and a time frame that you have in mind. It also helps to keep your cards close to your chest if they ask right away for a budget. Tell them you are still deliberating and have not decided on a smaller or larger wedding.

Ask the vendors for their prices and lists. Have questions ready. Ask them how much a booking deposit is, and payment options. Being ready to pay makes you attractive as a client. Do not ask them for too many discounts because that will tell them right away that you are either too frugal, too picky/ will be a problem.

Optional: If you are requesting a prime season, only in conversation in person should you ask about weddings that are "off season" and if there is a discount.

Close your meeting with the vendor by thanking them for their time, and that you'll be in touch. Sometimes giving a vendor more time may make them think about valuing your business and giving you an incentive the next time you touch base.

If the answer is "no" to a vendor, still thank them for their time, but keep your answers short and sweet. If they did something good, mention what you liked, but be kind and frank about what you didn't like (if you feel they have integrity and want to do better).





Do not tell a vendor that you will write them off right away because of price. Just tell them that you will need some more time to think, and that you will be visiting other venues. Sometimes vendors will incentivize you if they know that there is competition, but you aren't putting the pressure on them- they need to make the sales, you are just providing the money.

Business is business. If you both have decided to take a meeting in person (hard in COVID times), everyone would be taking it seriously. Do read up on articles on questions to ask. It is also good to have an overall guest count range, e.g. 50-100, 100-150, etc. You want to be sure the venue can accomodate your capacity comfortably and per fire code. I think it helps to imagine how your guests will flow from one room to the next, how they will be served meals, and amount of bathroom facilities. Best wishes.