Toxic parent

Hi guys. I’m just messing on here as a way to vent and also some advice?


Me and my husband got married in Sorrento Italy 2 weeks ago we originally booked the wedding in 2018 for 2020 and moved twice due to covid. We understood that a lot off peoples plans changed as we had 30 pple in 2020 and it went down to 14 this year. My parents told me 6 weeks before that they couldn’t do which tbh I don’t have a close relationship with them as my dad is very controlling and has said some nAsty things over the years. But I don’t want to fall out with them for the sake off my two children so I’m ok with them.
But when my dad rang me he stated that we should get married in the uk ( we’re I’m from) before we go to Italy so that he can walk me down the lie and have a blessing over in Italy I said that’s not what we want and even if we wanted to do it it would cost a lot off money and as we’ve have already sent the legal paperwork over to Italy so could not be done anyway. He was quite for a while but I spend the whole day worried he would say something nasty to me so turned my phone off.
When I got back I had a phone call off him going over the same stuff that we should have sat down with him and my in laws and discussed my wedding and we should have changed it to suit him and my mum so they were not left out. My in laws even offered to pay for my parents to come -Which they declined they asked what I would have done in that situation I said I would have saved to make sure I was there and he went mental at me I wasn’t mad at them for not coming i understand why not. He’s been very opinionated. The thing that gets me is 4 years ago he was exited and inviting people. He’s not paid a penny towards the wedding. Because I. Stood up to him for once He asked if my husband hit me coz it seems like he has control over he doesn’t and Chris has been a saint with all the nasty things my dad has said though out the years Chris could have said something but kept quite. So me and our two children can have a relationship with him. He’s not been the best dad emotionally as he likes control and when it’s not to his liking he lashes out. As a child I was never good enough and got told I was fat so developed bulimia which after therapy they said it was my dad who cased it. My mum is a doormat and is controlled by him and won’t say anything to keep the peace. He controls her money and has had many affaires behind her back. Which I had only recently found out.
I work for him and he has stoped paying me and told me not to come into work. He’s also telling people that I’ve been unfair and not invited himAnd my mum to the wedding which isn’t ture at all. It eyed my best to include him and coz he couldn’t get his own way he cut me out xx