Traditional Vows or Hand-written when you have anxiety?

I am a total introvert and hate public speaking, but didn't like the traditional "to have and to hold, in sickness and in health" vows and was way too nervous and self conscious to write my own. So instead, I looked up wedding ceremony scripts and picked which parts of the vows I liked and kind of mashed them together from different scripts I found. So it was more personalized, but without the pressure of being hand-written. Offbeat Bride and A Practical Wedding are great resources for this.

I have anxiety but I wrote my own. I'll probably be shaking like a leaf but, I was determined to say what I wanted to say.

I suffer from anxiety, and get very anxious when I am up in front of people or put on the spot. We are going to write our own vows. This will also help me because I can read from paper instead of having to listen and repeat words. It’s silly but knowing me I would mess up or say “can you repeat that?”. Not everyone is the same when it comes to that, so whatever you decide I wish you the best of luck!!

View Quoted Comment This is exactly what we are doing! We are writing our own, but together (so we will say the same vows). This way it is more personal, but doesn't have the stress. We are deciding if we want to read them or repeat them. We are leaning towards repeating because I want to be able to look at my FH when saying them and hold his hands, not paper.

I have anxiety and I was going to be brave and do the hand written ones but then my fiancé who is super outgoing seemed to be too shy about it. So we’re going to do traditional for him. But I’m thinking of writing private letters to read that night.

We both have some serious social anxiety so we're doing the short traditional (nonreligious) vows- easy peasy lol. But neither of us really care about what's being said, honestly.

I hate public speaking too and we have 140 guests on the list to attend So what my photographer suggested (and what she did at her wedding) was if you are doing a first look, you can read your hand written vows to each other then so that it's intimate and do traditional or slightly traditional for the ceremony. Just an option.

I have anxiety and hate public speaking, we did write our own vows and I think the thing that helped me so much was I was so focused on reading the words I wrote (I typed them out on a sheet of paper) that I didn't think of much else. Before I knew it I was done and breathed a sigh of relief! It goes by so quick!

I'm really on the fence. I want to do personal, written vows but I think if I do, I have to make it short and very sweet. I have to "summarize" how I feel about my FH. That may cut my anxiety in half. If not, I'll do a very simple, sweet vow that's traditional and speaks to us.

I have anxiety, I hate public speaking & I have been nervous about the whole day bc I know my hands are going to be drenched. I dont want to touch to touch me or anyone to touch me 🤦🏽‍♀️ I want to write my own vows but I’m nervous abt crying..or that I won’t be loud enough..or they won’t be “good” enough lol BUT I know my FH will love them. I have seen/heard of ppl reading to each other during their first look. My plan is to just focus on my breathing throughout the day & to only look at my FH. Nothing else or anyone in the room will matter at that exact moment but us. Good luck with your decision! Whatever you choose..you can do it!