Traditional vs Non-traditional

When I first got engaged,I told my cousin I am a "very non-traditional bride". She said, "Unless you are saying your vows mid-sky dive, youre traditional. sorry"

I was upset because my mom described me in an e-mail to a venue as a "very traditional bride" what?! First off, FH and I have lived together for two years. As for the wedding itself, we arent having cake, we're not getting married in a church, I went out of my way to find an officiant who will use inclusive and feminist language,if anyone clinks glasses I will commit murder....I saw myself as non-traditional. and yes, I have a maid and a matron of honor.

On the other hand,I am wearing white(ish),we are having a bridal party,we are doing all the traditional dances, have incorporated the "I Dos" into our vows, are exchanging rings, my dad is walking me down the aisle...

My point is, forget "traditional" or "non-traditional".your wedding should be exactly what you & your FH want it to be. Theres nothing wrong with having 2 maids of honor.

This is YOUR DAY!!!!! It's ok to hear/receive opinions/suggestions from friends and family, but your wedding is all about what you and your husband want.

I wanted my sister and bff to be my mohs but I could tell it hurt my sisters feelings. So I'm only having her be my moh

Honestly, half the things people think are "traditional" were invented in the past couple of decades. And there is no such thing as a completely "traditional" (or for that matter, a completely "nontraditional") wedding. Pick traditions that are meaningful, skip the rest, and ignore your aunt.

The mom-of-my-friend who threw my bridal shower happened to mention, "Weddings used to be so much more cookie-cutter when I was young. They're all so different now". She may just being all nostalgic for 'the good old days', but I agree with everyone else. It's your wedding, not hers. Have the wedding that makes you happy.

OMG Rebecca's post is like... my soul mate in posting. Thank you for actually posting the real meaning behind most of these traditions.

I had two. It has nothing to do with traditions. It should be how you and your SO want it to be not how your aunt feels it should be.

I am having two MOH's as well. My sister and my best friend, I couldn't choose just one. I was also going to ask a male friend to be a "bridesman" and got a lot of grief over it. I ended up choosing not to because I felt it would make him uncomfortable. At the end of the day, its your wedding so do whatever you want.

It's your wedding and your decision. If you choose to subscribe to certain traditions and not others, so be it.

It's your wedding! Do it however you would like.

I don't like the word "traditional" because almost all of the time it is used too vaguely as an excuse for something. Just tell them you are doing things a certain way because it is "traditional" to you :-P

I am having two MOH. But in my case, I have two sisters. There is a total of three of us who are EXTREMELY close in age. I see nothing wrong with two MOH

I have two MOHs too! I could never choose.

I don't understand why your aunt's opinion matters at all. Is she paying?