Traditions to cut

@elphaba love the feminist/ humanistic vows!!

@elphaba my goodness. People are horrible.

Thankfully this is the only non-professional involved in the wedding and it's one of the few things I'm dead set on. It means a lot to me and I trust that she'll pull through (we've been friends for so long). But there is a back up plan (two actually) in case things go wrong, friendship goes south, emergencies come up, etc.

And honestly there will be so few people at the ceremony, if she freezes up, we'll all end up laughing. I really do not care about that.

Officiant is one job where I have no problems with having a friend do. Especially to have someone who knows both bride and groom very well. A bonus is if many of the guests know the officiant friend too.

A very goofy friend officiated a couple's wedding and it was very humorous, personalized, and authentic. Overall, he was a big hit.

Definitely not doing a garter or bouquet toss. They are both so awkward to me! We also won't be doing any of the dances.

No unity ceremony here. No garter or bouquet toss. No flower girl or ring bearer. We are doing a rose ceremony for our moms. I'll give his Mom a rose and he'll give my mom one.

Walking down the isle by myself , depending on how many singles at wedding if garter toss. As of now mostly family and not many single lol

We cut out the unity ceremony, no something borrowed or blue, no staying apart night before ceremony, no bouquet toss, no garter toss, no speeches/toasts, only 4 people total in bridal party including DH and I. We skipped these traditions and didn't miss it one bit.

No ringbearer or flower girl; no bouquet or garter toss; it will be a simple ceremony - officiant can say a few words, we'll say our vows and then done.

No unity ceremony, no garter/bouquet tosses. No flower girl really only because i don't know any little girls. FH is a lot more traditional then I am so we have had to make a few compromises on both ends. But I'm happy with them all.

I love all these different ideas.

We aren't doing a bouquet toss or garter toss.. thats about it.

No bouquet or garter toss & no cake cutting. Nothing borrowed & nothing blue. Our timeline is out of order for a number of reasons & we are having food trucks instead of sit down dinner or buffet.

No ring bearer

No flower girl

no garter toss

still debating on throwing a bouquet

Skipping the unity ceremony. Not doing any readings. My father won't be making a speech. We're adding a family dance.

We are cutting so many things. No garter removal/toss, no special dances aside from our first dance, no cake/cake cutting (we obviously have an alternative!!) I have two guys in my bridal party (my brides-guys!), both of her parents are walking her down the aisle instead of just her dad (my mom will be walking me), we are having a religion free ceremony (this breaks family tradition as most of our families are very catholic). That's just what I can think of now. We want a wedding that is very 'us', but still has that wedding feel. Our main focus is delicious food, good music, and an overall great time for our guests.

When we got engaged we had a serious conversation about what 'traditions' we wanted to keep and only a few survived, as they are important to us, otherwise, we're making this wedding about us, as it should be.

we opted for a destination wedding in Mexico, which alone is a big break from tradition. We were prepared for backlash, but didn't get any. Anyone who knows us, knows the beach is the perfect setting for our day. I am walking down the isle alone. No bridal party, no speeches, no father-daughter or mother-son dances, no bouquet/garter toss, no cake cutting, no cake actually!

traditions we are keeping... the first look being when I walk down the isle. this is super important to my FI and I think it's sort of sweet. Also keeping the Blue, Borrowed, New as it's really important to my grandfather and grandmother whom recently passed.

You gotta do you!

I like some of the traditions still. Like I really wish that my father could walk me down the aisle but he passed away in December of 2016, so instead my mom will be walking me down the aisle. Now with that said we are still doing the parents dance but I will be dancing with my mom and will are going to make it fun so it is not a sad moment.

But we are not doing the garter toss. Also we are on the fence if we want to do a first look or not. (so any advice to help with deciding will be great! lol) Also my mom is paying for our wedding. She and my father have always wanted to pay for mine and my sister's wedding so that is one tradition that we are also following. My mom also just wants to save our money so we can buy a house.

We are not doing all the traditions, just some because it will make us happy!

Why is it unique to have a female officiant? Not being shitty, genuinely want to know. I think 90% of the weddings I've went to recently were officiated by women.

Nothing is traditional anymore FYI, in fact, my wedding is so traditional, that it is probably more outlandish than 99% of other weddings.

@miranda, I come from a heavily religious household. The idea of being married by a JP, and not a pastor, alone would bother most of the older relatives. My grandparents are going to lose it at the mention of a female officiant.

We are trying to find a enter of balance between traditional and non-traditional. FH wants things more traditional. He wants to make this a big event. I'm the throw-on-a-decent-dress-from-last-year, hit the JP, then throw a rocking party in the backyard kinda person. I do have to admit, though, that some of the traditions I have come to love.

I swore I'd never wear a white dress or spend $500 on one. I tried to compromise and bought a simple, white dress. But FH and friends/family convinced me to at least look at some gowns. (Said mine was beautiful, but didn't say Hey! I'm a bride! unless it was a beach DW or something.) So I went, and actually ended up falling in love with a bridal gown. Another tradition we are keeping is a receiving line. The layout of our combined ceremony/reception venue is conducive to this and it gives us a chance to personally thank everyone as they make their way to their seats.

Things we aren't keeping; we aren't doing a bouquet/garter toss. No parent dances. I'm changing up the processional and recessional music instead of traditional songs. We are doing our pictures before the ceremony, which may not be uncommon these days, but it's still not "traditional." No gift registry. No readings or unity ceremony during the wedding.

Definitely not doing bouquet or garter toss, and I wanted to skip cake cutting and have cupcakes or self serve desserts instead but we will see. We are having an outdoor ceremony by an acquaintance (does weddings all the time - there is a contract), nothing religious.

There are traditions I am fine with though.