I'm lost. I don't know if I even want a reception at all. I'm quite introverted, never was a partier, and am struck with horror at the thought of all our family watching me attempt to dance.
My fiance has told me multiple times that I should plan what I want, regardless of anyone else's preferences, even though I have asked him on many occasions what he would want. But he wants to stay out of planning for the most part and only give minor input rather than any real direction.
So, here is a collection of moodboardy aesthetic words that vaguely describe the event I would like: Intimate, soft, delicate, French gothic, Victorian, dreamy, lacey, quiet, whimsical, fairytale, starry, candlelight, contemplative, poetic, slow-paced, violins, folk, tranquil, drifting, waltzing, serious, medeival.
My fiance's family (Mexican) love their explosive parties. Spanish polka, mariachi, badass dancing, and cheeky shenanigans. They're fun and boisterous and I love them, but obviously my own selfish vision of a reception doesn't involve their culture's more lighthearted music/dances/vibe. I'm too serious and somber and I have no idea how I would merge my darker aesthetic with a sunny one.
I feel it would be insanely rude to not consider my fiance's culture when planning our reception. I'm struggling because people keep telling me to do what *I* want, but it's NOT all about me, especially when it comes to planning a party.
We're wanting to keep the wedding small (80 or less)... Unless I decide it would be better to elope, which I am always tempted by. Does anyone have advice for what I should be thinking about/prioritizing? How do I merge our very different cultures while still achieving the vibe I want?
