Trouble with groomsmen

Umm wait. These are groomsmen? Then why are you trying to discuss anything with them? That's THE GROOM'S JOB. You back the fuck off.

You have 6 months, they don't need to get fitted for their suits yet.

Chillax. Let your FH deal with them.

Why the fuck would you have anything to do with his groomsmen? You a) back off, these are your FH's call not yours; b) you don't replace people in your wedding party, they are not props.

Send them the details of where to order the suit and when they need to do it by. They'll get their shit together or they won't. Don't "replace" them- loved ones should not be expendable like that. You have 6 months.

1. What is there to discuss

2. They have time. Chill.

3. Let him make his own decisions about finances.

Replacing/kicking them out would be rude AF. These are your FH nearest and dearest. Not you call. Calm it down.

Bridal Party members are people not props that can be replaced. What you should do is let your FH handle the situation. Does he call your BMs and ask them about dresses?

Hi Kristen! Can I ask why you've been the one to reach out to the groomsmen? This should really be your FH's responsibility and can really easily breed animosity between his friends and you!

#2 - The guys have foooooorever to get suits. Is there a specific suit or order by date they need to be aware of? If so all FH has to do is let them know that date. Guys can purchase a suit and get it rush altered within a week - they'll be fine

#3 - Don't make assumptions about other people's financial situations. If they can't attend or can't afford to be in the wedding party, they need to speak up and come forward about it. What you guys can do as a couple is be as cost-conscious as possible and make sure that you aren't putting any financial burdens on the groomsmen!

Let your FH handle this- why are you involved? They're big boys.

The groomsman in our wedding haven't gotten things together either but that my FH'S department, they are his friends and all I've done is remind him to reach out to them. I'm not going to stress about it. Not yet at least they still have some time.

You really just want to replace them all? What? That's not even your call. Back off and let your FH take care of his side of the wedding party.

Wow, just wow.

Carry on

Let the groom handle it if its his family

@Brianna, OP is rude for wanting to kick her FH's family out of her wedding. We're not being rude, we're being blunt.

Brianna, we are giving her advice.

OP, you need to let your FH worry about this. It's honestly none of your business. Does your FH call your bridesmaids and hound them about whether they've ordered their dresses, or can afford the trip to your wedding? No. Stop.

You do need to back off. We haven't even picked out suits for the GM yet. And I'd certainly never tell FH he needs to kick out one of his very best friends because he hasn't "been able to discuss the wedding on the phone". What does that even mean? I have so many questions still.

ETA: Brianna, just saw your edit about how BP members "can and will be cut out". WTF is wrong with you? Not doing as they're asked? All they should be asked to do is buy an outfit and show up. With 6 months until the wedding, OP doesn't need to be worried about either of those things.

Brianna...you'll cut a BM for not doing as you ask?

That's pretty tacky, and shows your true character.

Your bridal party doesn't need to do shit for you. Their only job is to wear a dress and show up.

Not your circus, not your monkeys. Your FH gets to deal with them and guess what? If they don't have suits, he has no groomsmen. It's not the end of the world. And you don't replace them. FSS.

And Brianna? You're not running a corporation, okay? You can't cut people off. But if you do, they're probably dodging a bullet.

First your FH should be the one dealing with the groomsmen. He wants them in the wedding, they stay. It's rude to kick anyone out (except in VERY EXTREME circumstances). I'm getting married in 100 days, and guess what? We haven't ordered FH's suit. Not stressed, it will get done in the next month. Doesn't need to be done that early. Unless you have control issues, leave them and your FH alone about it.

Maybe there's a reason one of them isn't answering your phone calls. LOL.

I have the same issue so I gave them a deadline for the suits avd go to a national chain store where all of them can get the same suit and most importantly same materials. Also I made a Facebook page for just my guys and we stayed in touch along with me putting important info like suit pics shoes and etc and so far it has worked great

Good lord. Back away from the groomsmen OP. Seriously, you have 6 months and none of this is even your concern.