Troubles with Guest List !

I recommend scrapping everything you already have. Sit down with your FS and begin again. Start with the people you cannot imagine your day without (parents, grandparents, godparents (if you have them), siblings, etc.). Then start adding in circles. Aunts/uncles, friends, whatever. When you reach your limit, then you stop. If you don't want children, then don't invite them. I guarantee that people aren't taking their children everywhere they go. If they want to prioritize your wedding, they will. If they're putting down ultimatums (if my children can't come, I just won't) then they've shown you how important they find your wedding.

Don't invite peoples kids to make THEM happy, this is about you and your FH. Just remember the more people you have the more expensive it is. Make a list of those people you can't imagine your big day without. If there is room add some more people on. You can always have a B list if you get declines.

Hello fellow November bride! Our wedding is the day before yours! And we had the same issue originally with the kids. My FH has 3 sisters and all of them have a kid, one is pregnant with her second. We were going to allow them, but then we didn't see it being fair to tell everyone else with kids that they couldn't bring them, so we told his sisters this will be a kid-free wedding. They were okay with it and have found babysitters. I'm really glad that we did this, because we still have to pay for kids at our venue and it was costly still for a kid! I like the idea that Becky had where you delete everything and start over. That way it can help with deciding who is most important to be invited.

View Quoted Comment

I went through the list once again and I'm feeling more confident now. I just ordered my invitations. I told my FH the list is finalized and every invitation is counted for there and that's that.

View Quoted Comment

Thank You for your encouragement ! I'm feeling more confident !

View Quoted Comment November Brides 💍💍 !


We can’t make everyone happy but those who really love us will understand and be there to celebrate this special moment with us . I’ve made up my mind and my guest list has been finalized. Who ever wishes to be there will be there and that’s that . Thank you for your advice and sharing your experiences also !
Best Regards Jocelyn 😊

Scrap the list entirely. Sit down with fiancé and decide who are your absolute must have guests you can’t imagine the day without. If they’re an obligatory invite only to please someone else, scratch them from the list. Significant others must be invited as a social unit. Don’t allow random stranger plus ones for your truly single guests. Chances are they will know other people in attendance. Children are all or none. You will offend if you play favorites and allow certain children (as an example, newborns and bridal party children) while everyone else is excluded, though no one will say a word to you.


Cut out anyone you do not currently regularly socialize with. Just because you were a bridesmaid for a college friend you no longer talk to, you don’t need to invite her. Do not invite parents’ friends/coworkers, your own coworkers or fellow parishioners. Parents can host their own party or family reunion at another time unrelated to your wedding.
Some people are much closer to friends than their own relatives and consider the friends to be their family. Some people are closer to extended family than parents. You don’t have to invite every uncle if you are only close to one or their kids.