True or False: I’ve argued with my parents or in-laws about the wedding

False for us. Both of our families are extremely laid-back and just want us to be happy. They've been more than helpful and offer suggestions as they come across them, but are leaving all the planning details to us and are happy with whatever we choose.

False, but the only thing we have disagreed on is how soon we actually get married. His mom wants us to do within a year or so, we are like maybe 2-3 years from now, I want to be more financially stable. She explained you can't keep putting it off because so many people put it off and never become financially stable, which I get but I still want to wait. Meanwhile my parents are fine with us waiting lol.

No parents for me.

His parents were so laid back. It was wonderful.

False. My husband and I planned our wedding together and there was no input from anyone. We didn't discuss details with anyone.

My fiancé and I are paying for everything and we are not letting our parents help pay for anything because we don’t want their input. But we still get it all the time my mom has complain about the destination, the theme, the lofting, the cake, food, and so many other things. My dad wants to add things to the wedding that doesn’t go with my theme or my timeline. It’s definitely a struggle especially since I asked them in the beginning if there was anything they expected or assumed for the wedding and they both said no. It was up to us. I’ve always been a people pleaser so it’s hard for me to say no or fight back so I just say I guess we will see what happens.

False! My parents couldn't care less about what we do with the wedding and both of my fiancé's parents are passed away.

False (so far). My FH is an only child and his parents just want us to be happy. They've volunteered to help with stuff and we pick and choose what we receive knowing that the more they help, the more it could lead to them dictating things that we don't want. For my parents, this is their 3rd child to be married in 6 1/2 years. They're really laid back about everything. We're both adults and if we need help or want their opinions, we know how to ask.
Now my sister is an entire different matter. To just barely scratch the surface, she has been trying to dictate my wedding plan since the moment I got engaged. Told me that September wasn't going to work for us to get married since it's her husband's "busy season" (he's a sports writer) and that we'd have to have the weddings in the late Spring or Summer. (FH and brothers are in the building trades summer is their busy season). She expected to be MOH even though we hardly ever talk and that her husband would be a groomsman even though FH as never met sisters husband. Yeah, my sister is awesome 🙄

No, I haven’t had a single arguement about the wedding with my parents nor my in-laws.

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Laid back is good!! It really allows the couple to plan out everything exactly how they want it to be!

100% false. My parents nor his parents are paying for the wedding so any questions and concerns they have, they are welcome to voice them but at the end of the day, it's our wedding and I'm not arguing with someone that won't foot any of the bill.

VERY TRUE! My mom and I argued in the beginning when I chose my venue. She didn't like the cost of the venue so she gave her unsolicited opinion and we bumped heads. Our wedding venue was the most affordable with great perks, but she was looking for something that was close to free lol.

I invited her to the venue's open house, and she fell in love with the place.

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I didn't really do anything. They weren't invited because we had space issues, not because we didn't like them or something. At that point, you can't do much. Kick them out? I guess but still I was so busy (I should also mention they came from the next state over so they really traveled a few hours to be there). By the time I noticed they were there we were well into dinner and they were sitting down eating. We did a buffet so it wasn't an issue with the caterer and we actually had 4 people cancel the week of the wedding so we had the chairs open.

I was definitely annoyed, and I think it's super rude, but on the wedding day it wasn't worth my time or stress. I just let it go and had a good time.

View Quoted Comment Woah, that sounds tense. Good thing you and your FH handled it maturely.

True. My mom gets on me about little things like room blocks and such...even if I’m in the middle of handling it, she will assume I’m sitting back and doing nothing about it

False but I feel it coming because FMIL is starting to make demands.

True......I've argued with my mom, only once I really wanted a food truck and she said it was tacky and she would be embarrassed

True. Well, the in-laws (specifically FMIL) tries to overstep boundaries. But luckily my FH told me from the get go that he would always handle issues with her so I wouldn't have to. But sometimes I just want to avoid her until the day. 😣

False as of right now. I have had heated discussions with FH every time he laughs about his mother adding more people to the guest list. I can’t be disrespectful directly to her, but trying to get him to understand these people don’t need to be there is tough bc his parents are contributing. It was completely unexpected for them to contribute and he keeps just saying well all their guests even out with their contributions when I am a budget/bargain shopper type bride.

True! My mother has driven me crazy non stop! She wants me to have an open invitation wedding, no RSVP no one not invited! She wants us to have a pot luck at the really ugly community center!

My FFIL has just talked down to me saying things like I am trying to hard or I am making too big of deal about it or that I am waisting all of our money! UGH I can not stand him! I have already told FH if we have a kid and he tries to talk to it like he does to him or I, Then that relationship will be over entirely. He completely agrees