True or False: I’ve argued with my parents or in-laws about the wedding

True. My dad likes to harp on things that are easily remedied.

With my parents a little they want me to get married in the Catholic Church like the rest of them but neither me nor my fiancé are catholic

False. Sadly both sets of parents have passed away. My sister-in-law has made some snide comments about not needing a wedding, that we should just elope...but that's it. To my knowledge none of his family has said anything bad.

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That's good!!!

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I think that is the case with a lot of parents! As time goes on hopefully, she'll be able to see how nice your vision for your wedding is

False. I have not.

False, what is there to argue about?

False to a point. My mom and sister keep joking about it's not too late to run. I don't think it's funny one bit. This is my third time being engaged and I'm with someone i truly love. Id be devastated if my fiance took that advice and ran for the hills. And we got into an argument about dresses. My in laws are awesome unfortunately his mom passed but I could see her being a huge help and beyond happy about everything. His step dad is awesome as well. His biological father we dont really talk to. Him and f.h don't see eye to eye. I only met him twice and he barely knows I exist in f.hs life or his grandchildren's lives.

False. Everybody wants me happy. What I have planned is what is happening.

View Quoted Comment Our moms sound alike. Is yours helping financially? Mine isn’t and is a downright negative person so I didn’t invite anyone but my best friend to dress shop with me. I told my mom I found one and her response was asking if she could borrow some shredded cheese from my house. Lol. She did, however, text my sister and niece a picture of the dress letting them know they must not have made the dress shopping day cut. 🙄 She also doesn’t like our venues we are choosing from, comments on my photographer and choices of catering.

View Quoted Comment She is not helping financially in any way... In fact we are paying for the whole wedding ourselves and she is constantly asking me for and "borrowing" money from me with no return. When I don't give it to her she gets upset and says she doesn't understand where all my money is going 🙄, when I do, she gets upset with me for asking what the money is for or where it is going and she says I really shouldn't have a say in what she does with "her" money.

View Quoted Comment Our moms really do sound similar. I'm sorry you are dealing with that as well 😔 it really sucks.

False. I have a very supportive family. We’re paying for our wedding ourselves so they have no say. Best this ever!

View Quoted Comment It really isn’t great! Sorry you’re dealing with it too. Mine at least isn’t asking to borrow money. She just makes snide remarks about me making my wedding “all about myself”. Lol. We are offering to buy bridesmaids dresses and pay for any hotel if it’s needed for the wedding party. We are in no way being awful to our guests. My FH and I just aren’t taking her opinions (which she’s always full of) and making decisions based on them. If we are footing the bill we are planning as we see fit. I’m actually looking into a wedding planner since my mom isn’t being helpful so I have someone who can step in and dedicate some time to this planning so I don’t drive my FH batty.

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Wow lady! Then even more props to you!! I'm really sorry to hear that you have some family members who have been making you feel badly about yourself for years. No one deserves that. For what it's worth, I think you handled the situation beautifully--if family isn't willing to drive 45 minutes for the wedding, then they don't have to come. The last thing you need on your wedding day is someone to make you feel badly anyway. Unfortunately faith can come with a lot of expectations and baggage in families (mine included, actually--raised Catholic) that make weddings more complicated than they could be. Ultimately though, this is a celebration of love between you and your fiance--if you're uncomfortable, it's well within your right to say no. In fact, in this case it seems healthy to say no.

It sounds like you should be really proud of yourself for all your bravery, over the years in building fortitude, but especially now. I'm so glad I could contribute to your feelings of success! Full validation from me for being a rockstar in the face of difficulty!

View Quoted Comment It sounds like your managing it well! That's awesome. You kind of have to look at it as her loss. The planner is a great idea. I would get one if it was in my budget, but it just isn't will all the financial responsibilities we have taken on. We are having a very low keyed wedding though, so it's not too bad. I've learned to just not talk to her about the plan. She still makes decisions on my behalf but it helps. Little.

False, I’m the first of my moms children to get married so I’m actually always going to her for advice and she’s really helpful, FH family they are so laid back they don’t really care as long as we get what we want.

We have gotten into arguments with my future father-in-law. He just likes to argue for the sake of arguing. He doesn’t like that we are getting married in California and where my FH and I will live after the wedding and he is out of the Army.

True. My mom and I argued because she wanted to control aspects of our wedding from the venue to types of flowers I had in the bouquets. She said she would only pay for and be in support of our wedding if we got married at a venue she loved(that my FH and I didn't like) and that if we got married at our dream venue(which she didn't like) she wouldn't even show up to our wedding. That obviously didn't sit well with me at all.

False. My future MIL has been an amazing help with planning my wedding. My fiancé and I have been together for 11 years (we’re high school sweethearts) and I always say that if it wasn’t for her we’d be engaged for 11 more years. 🤣