True or False: I’ve argued with my parents or in-laws about the wedding

Not major arguments ,some disagreements with my mom because she wants something different that what i really want but now she is understanding that it’s my wedding ,not hers. My in-laws are amazing ,they’re willing to help but they don’t get in the way of the planning and since I am a very undecided person , it helps when I don’t have too many opinions on my decisions/choices.

No fights yet, drama definitely, people just don't know what a budget is when it's notthere wallet...

True, since day one 😭... We only wanted a civil wedding... They're making us do a religious one and they want it big... They're not helping with the budget tho 😭.

True, I had a slight argument with my mother about the guest list.

True, however they have been small tiffs. At my age with and my personality, my parents know that I will (politely) do as I please, other opinions or people's feelings be damned. My mom still tries to sneak things in, but we have a good relationship and I know she means well. I've been lucky I suppose that my in-laws are almost 100% hands off. I do have an overbearing Aunt, but my FH charms her so she forgets to argue with me! Where was he in my teens?!? :-) Fingers crossed, no huge blow ups in the next 6 months.

False for us so far! I'm sure my FMIL will argue closer to the wedding as she has already started rolling her eyes when I talk about what we're doing. She thinks I'm not allowing FH any say, which isn't true.

Our parents are not paying so they don’t have a say

SO TRUE, with my in laws. We’re having a semi destination wedding, it's about 4.5 hours from where we are from, but it’s the city my FH and I basically began our relationship in (lived there for the first two years) so we thought it would be super fun to get married there. We’ve gotten nothing but negative comments from them about literally everything you can imagine, they even decided to point out our wedding date was in hurricane season. I just avoid talking about the wedding with them now cause it makes me so angry. I’ve seen their true selves after planning this wedding. They’re lucky I love their son

We argue all the time lol. My parents feel like weddings are a waste of money. I have been dreaming of this day since I was a child so I wanted something beautiful and stress free. My family wants me to have a DIY wedding and I feel like that's too stressful

True not mother in law as much as mom

True! Only my mom though. I argued with her about her hideous choice in shoes and about not wanting to wear a giant amber necklace.

Not really but my grandparents who raised keep telling me it should just b cake & lunch at the reception - so old school

True. My mom hates most of my ideas

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I hear you on this. My parents have very heavily insisted that we have our wedding at their church and do the reception *in the church basement.* They gave me an extremely limited budget to work with, knowing we can't contribute much, and I honestly think it was a ploy. IDK what their obsession is with this crappy church basement that's an hour away from our home, but since we aren't doing it, they've been trying to get my brother to do his there instead. o.O

Oh, and it's a church that I insisted over and over that I don't want any part of, due to horrible things happening to me there in the past, and it just really took a LOT to get past that conversation.

View Quoted Comment The church treated me bad as well. I used to have to go to my dads every other weekend so I couldn’t go to church (I would have rather been at church than my dads since when I was with him I got beat) but I would come home and go to church to be told since you’re not here every week we can’t be friends with you (this was as a 8year old who already hated herself enough) I’m my family owns a farm that’s beautiful but since they don’t know how to be nice I won’t be having my wedding there either. If you live close to TN I’d offer my farm for your wedding we even have cabins (some of the first cabins ever built in TN) for parties for reception! I know how it is to have a strict budget. That’s why we decided to go to Hawaii and have the wedding for like $400 (I also got my dress off of Facebook market cause I didn’t want to go shopping). Families are very difficult when it comes to big events. So I understand you!!! It’s nice to have people to talk to that know!

False. Both our parents are very hands off unless needed. My mom was shocked about how many traditional things we are NOT doing but that’s it

False....my MIL is amazing and has been extremely satisfied with all our ideas and plans. My parents have stayed out of it, well except my dad's wife, but we're paying for it so they all understand they don't really get a hand in the planning. It's been peaceful besides the preacher disaster last week.

Yes. His mom had the balls to DEMAND I postpone( indefinitely for her liking and FH 21yo daughter liking- after 7 years!) the wedding, for her trip to Africa.
It has been postponed once because his disrespectful daughter threw a fit, and got her way, and sooooo yeah. Then he gave his mom/stepdad, 2 kids, he and I a trip to Africa for next year.
She wants to go 3mo before the wedding!!! This was supposed to be a January trip NOT a May trip! FH needs to sit her down and say NO! This is something we are working on.

TRUE: my parents both mother and father have argued with me over every decision. They are trying to make me do things i dont want to do and/or asking why i need certain things. Even though ive gotten the cheapest stuff for them so i havent even spent but maybe $800 on the whole wedding so far thats venue included! It drives me crazy because its my wedding and i should be able to plan it how i want. They also ask why im getting things so early, well because i dont want to feel rushed so ive been getting stuff little by little for the past year. Instead of spending the money all at once i spend $20 here and there to get stuff.

True! I’ve argued with both of our parents wanting the wedding to be exactly how they want it and not what we want. Down to them trying to change the details behind our backs