Trying to conceive

We kind of started trying the end of 2015
We seriously started trying about 13 months ago. We started seeing a fertility dr in Feb. we’ve never gotten a positive test.
I’m sure we’re not “normal” but just know it can be a long, daunting, emotional, journey. Best of luck to you.

It’s so difficult because you really never know how long it will take. I’ve had friends get pregnant three weeks after stopping birth control, and others who have gone on years long journeys to become parents.
Sending love to anyone in this thread that’s on that journey now 🤍 fertility issues always break my heart.

I think it would depend on whether or not you would like to potentially be pregnant for your honeymoon. And also how far you will be traveling. Will it require you to fly? Will you be traveling internationally? Personally, I would not want to be pregnant on my honeymoon. I would want that final vacation with my husband before having children, where I wouldn’t have any restrictions on activities or alcohol. Not to mention the beginning of pregnancy is often times when morning sickness is the worst- definitely would not want to spend my honeymoon feeling sick. Also, with the new variants of Covid circulating, I don’t think I would feel comfortable traveling while newly pregnant.

My ex-husband and I started trying immediately after getting married. We both wanted a lot of children and we wanted them young. It took me 4 months of not preventing (but not tracking) to get pregnant. Unfortunately that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. When we began trying again (for our now 8 year old), we again weren’t tracking and it took 2 months for me to get pregnant. When my husband and I decided to try and have a baby, I got pregnant in the first month- at that point I’d been tracking my cycle/ovulation regularly because I haven’t been on the pill since my daughter was born. Everyone’s body is different so unless you’re 100% okay with being pregnant on your honeymoon, I wouldn’t try before then.

This is definitely one of the biggest questions my fiancé and I have. Our wedding is in June and our honeymoon is in September. We also plan on going to Key West in November as sort of a second honeymoon because of Covid we didn’t want to leave the United States. Factoring all of that in together,My fiancé and I both really want to get pregnant right after the wedding in June, but we are going to Disney in September and I think it might be a real bummer if I can’t ride on all of the rides and I won’t be able to have that poolside cocktail...


Are you a drinker? If so, you may want to wait until after the honeymoon to start trying to conceive. As much as I want to get pregnant right after the wedding, I don’t know how happy I would be if I have morning sickness the entire time. I figure if I wait until after the September honeymoon, even if i’m pregnant in November I won’t mind as much because I don’t mind not drinking as much as I would not being able to ride rides at Disney.
I will say that if we were going somewhere that didn’t involve riding roller coasters and rides, I would definitely get pregnant right after the wedding.

View Quoted Comment We got married October 2020 and the honeymoon is July so we have been waiting to try to conceive which is frustrating. I’m not really a drinker but Oir honeymoon is in Jamaica and its all inclusive! I just don’t know if it’s gonna take me years so I should try sooner but then idk. If we try to May I Would be two months pregnant or so

View Quoted Comment Lol this is exactly what is going on in my head right now too! Well July is only a few months away! I’d say use these next few months to workout, eat healthy and get your body in the BEST possible shape now for July! And then on your honeymoon TTC. you will not only look your best, but you will be in the best shape possible for when you start trying to conceive. If you think about it, it’s ONLY a few months that would get shaved off of your TTC plan which is really not a lot of time at all. 2 months will FLY by. If you don’t get pregnant on your honeymoon, I would keep trying until around September, and then if you’re still not pregnant, talk to your OB/GYN about fertility options.

View Quoted Comment Yes I’m thinking the same. I’m a teacher and I know I really can’t choose what month they’re born and want a healthy baby but I want to avoid giving birth june, July , august because I’ve noticed teaching kindergarten that a lot of kids born during these months are way more immature and not ready for school since they’re the youngest in the class. I know it’s silly and like I said I just want a healthy baby. That’s why I wanted to try may - august then stop and try again late December. I’m probably over thinking

My best advice is to wait until after your honeymoon! Whether you are a big drinker or not, if you are pregnant, there is no knowing how you will feel. Do you want to be sick your entire honeymoon? July is only 3 months away. I say start trying on your honeymoon and enjoy yourself while you are there!

I honestly would wait until after the honeymoon because its possible that you will have morning sickness. I IMMEDIATELY got pregnant once we started trying, I am talking the first week we had no problems AT ALL. But I unfortunately had "morning sickness" literally every single day of my pregnancy. And the reason I quote "morning sickness" is because I could get sick any time of the day. I even got sick the day that our son was delivered lol

Which you never know whether you would have it or not, I say start trying on your honeymoon because I would hate for you to be sick on vacation. It does not feel good at all. But goodluck

I’m getting married in October 2021. We aren’t doing our big honey money until March 2022 because we want to travel internationally and covid. I’m a bit older but I’m going to wait until after the honeymoon to start trying. Being pregnant on my honeymoon is 100% not preferred. Good luck!

This was a big conversation for me and my husband. I wanted to start trying before marriage (January), he wanted to wait a whole year after marriage. We compromised. (Split the year in half). We will start trying in June and got married March 9th.

I would wait. My first was planned and it happened when I was off bc for one month. And I was so sick. So sick my First Sgt in the Army felt pity on my and sent me home so many times. Granted, throwing up in PT formation at 6 am didn’t make anyone want to go on a run near me!

For our wedding/honeymoon in July 2022, we are taking a break from TTC this July thru January so that the "baby" wonʻt be younger than 3months or I wonʻt be more pregnant than 28wks to travel.

It depends on how pregnant youʻre ok potentially being on the honeymoon because unfortunately you donʻt know how long itʻll take until you try.

You are asking for subjective opinions so here is mine - wait till after honeymoon. It can take a week a month or yes it can take months and years. I have two young children and once you start being a parent which I believe starts w pregnancy - your body or ur life doesn’t really belong to you for some time. I would wait a few months to enjoy this time w your new spouse... it’s not like you have to wait years.
You also don’t know how your body will react once you are pregnant. Do u really want to be vomiting the entire honeymoon? Or worry WhT you can eat and what you can’t? If it’s a place in the Caribbean you might not even be able to eat fruit cuz u don’t know what water they washed it in... in addition to some seafoods and steaks cooked in a certain way...
Maybe start trying on ur honeymoon bammm

I’m on this journey now. We been actively trying since January of last year so a little over a year no positive yet . I have started some vitamins to see if that jump starts anything. But we will see. I’m 90% sure I have pcos which is even harder (drs have not confirmed just have all the symptoms) good luck to anyone with pcos or even trying to convince. We are all in this together.
However to answer your question I would wait until after your honeymoon that way you know you can fully enjoy your self with a worry.

The thing is, you won't know if you will have difficulty until you start trying. We've been trying for about a year and a half and we did our first IUI cycle last month. I'm 30, he's 31, no medical problems. Apparently 1 in 8 couples experience unexplained infertility, and we didn't know we'd be one of them. We started trying shortly after our wedding. Looking back, we probably would have started trying before, and that's because if you're under 35, insurance makes you wait for a full calendar year of trying before they will begin any fertility testing and then it takes another few months before implementing a treatment plan. However, unless you have already been diagnosed with PCOS or a similar problem or you're approaching age 40, you have no reason to prematurely anticipate any issues. 7 out of 8 chance you will be very successful and have no issues conceiving at all! Since your honeymoon is only 3 months away, I think you could go either way with this one.

This is difficult thing to plan really. Everyone's journey is completely different! I know that we have been extremely lucky because we started trying and were pregnant within 1.5 weeks. Whereas my cousin took months to find out that it would be next to impossible to conceive naturally. They are now happily pregnant after successfully transferring an embryo on NYE. This is all to say that it could take a while to conceive or it could be really fast! If I were you I would probably wait until the honeymoon to start trying, but that's my personal opinion. You do what feels right for you and your SO! I wish you both the best of luck

We've been trying since January 2020 - nothing yet. We had a short while where I didn't have periods, but also no positive test, so I went to the doctor to see what was up - PCOS. So, it may not happen for us at all, though I haven't gone back on the pill, because we'd like to get pregnant.

You never know what your journey will look like - but I agree with the crowd - I wouldn't start trying until after your honeymoon.

We have kinda been trying "not preventing it" for over a yr. Our wedding isn't until next September. So we are probably gonna hold off until after the wedding. Good luck.