Trying to conceive

Hello fellow teacher and same wedding month/year. 😁 It took my husband and I 3 months of trying. I just finished my 1st trimester and I was exhausted the majority of the time. My co-worker is a few weeks behind and feels sick constantly. I feel lucky I was mostly just tired and not getting sick. I would hold off until after the honeymoon so you can enjoy it to the fullest. Also I feel way more anxious about crowds and covid then before I was pregnant.

View Quoted Comment Aw! When did you start trying and how long did it take? When the due date? Congrats!

View Quoted Comment I stopped taking birth control mid October. It took us to the end of January to conceive and the baby’s due date is October 27th. Thank you! ☺️

So, we started Jan '20. (On our honeymoon.)

Got pregnant May '20. Miscarried July '20.

Restarted October '20. Pregnant January '21. Currently 16 1/2 weeks, everything looks good (and I can't stop eating).

Let me tell you, if you get lucky and are pregnant ASAP, with a "sticky baby" ... you will feel AWFUL on your honeymoon. I mean, exhausted, nauseated, and cranky. I felt like I had non-stop motion sickness for 2 months, WITH wearing the 'sea bands', and having ginger candy on hand. I spent more hours sleeping than awake, and had *no* sex drive whatsoever. (Also, then you can't drink a lot, eat fish, soft cheeses, deli meats, have too much coffee, and a host of other things you might want to do on your honeymoon.)

I would start *trying* on the honeymoon. Think of it as an excuse to REALLY lean in to the honeymoon idea.

We plan to try immediately after the wedding. I've been tracking my cycle and using ovulation strips, so I know exactly which day I'll be ovulating every month. I'm hoping that helps me get pregnant more easily. My few friends who have done this got pregnant on their very first try.


Also, if you plan to try in July, start taking pre-natals and taking care of yourself at least by the beginning of May. Healthy bodies make for healthy pregnancies!

We got married at the end of February 2020.


We had originally planned on starting to try that summer since we were going on our honeymoon in March/April. Covid happened and his sister’s announced that her wedding would take place mid October. Husband and I were both in the wedding party so we decided to wait until after the his sister’s wedding. We started trying a couple of weeks after the wedding and got pregnant from it. Baby is due this summer.
We are in our early and mid 30s so we were prepared for it to take a little longer to get pregnant so we were pretty shocked that it happened during the first month.

I would consider how old you are and other factors in your life. If you are quite young, I would hold off until after the honeymoon, but if you are older or have any reason to suspect you may have difficulty conceiving (history of infertility in family, medical history or past medical events that may cause fertility issues), it may offer some piece of mind to start sooner. You can't realistically put your life on hold and wait for the perfect time to have kids, but you'll likely enjoy your honeymoon more if not pregnant, so if you feel like you will have ample time to try after your honeymoon I would recommend waiting. Some couples conceive right away, for some it takes years, and some are never able to get pregnant. If you are older, you likely have a more compressed timeframe because as you age, you generally just become less fertile. I couple is not considered to be infertile or having fertility difficulties until after you have been TTC for a year (for women under age 35) or six months (for women ages 35 and over).

My husband and I started dating in our early 30s and had our wedding planned for May 2020, when I would be 34 and he would be 37. It was important to us to be married before trying for kids, and I didn't want to be pregnant beyond my mid-late 30s. Ideally we would have had the wedding, gone on our honeymoon, and then started TTC immediately after, which would have given us two years to TTC. Then Covid came, so we eloped but didn't immediately start TTC because we were concerned about the pandemic, we still wanted to a wedding celebration with friends and family, and my mom had just been diagnosed with cancer. Eventually we figured we could not wait any longer and starting low-key TTC earlier this year. Our wedding celebration is in June, so we figured even if we got pregnant right away we would not be so far along that we couldn't celebrate. Right now we are keeping it pretty low key (our regular pattern of sexual activity and not using protection). I'm not being crazy about trying to pinpoint my ovulation and time intercourse yet, but I have a general enough of idea of our supposed fertility window and sexual activity history that we likely should have conceived by now if it was going to be easy for us. Every month I feel this very mixed sense of anxiety around my period - when my period comes I worry more and more that we are not going to be able to conceive because we've gone another month without being successful (and it seems like we should have conceived based on the data I have), but then I'm also semi-relieved that we may be able to have a wedding celebration where I can drink and don't have morning sickness. It's not a fun bubble to be in. I don't know if you would feel similarly leading up to your honeymoon if you started TTC now. I will likely be very happy once we've had our celebration, and then can just focus on one thing - trying to get pregnant - and not be worrying about how that will interfere with other plans.

My friend and her husband decided in December to start trying for a baby and she became pregnant in January. Personally I'd wait to after the honeymoon so you can enjoy it fully!

Took us 5 mo. Track your periods and use ovulation kits monthly when you are ready.

How long it takes to conceive is soooooo variable. I have friends who conceived literally the first time they had unprotected sex, friends who've had "ooops" pregnancies when using protection, and friends who have tried for 7+ years, including multiple rounds of IVF, and were never able to successfully conceive. We are currently TTC and no luck so far. Because we are already in our mid-late 30s and have been trying for 6+ months, we are officially considered to have infertility now. It's really a blow.

There will never be a "perfect" time to bring a baby into your family but if you have something planned in the next few months in which being preggo would absolutely interfere, I would just wait. We started TTC earlier this year because I turned 35 and we just couldn't wait longer, even though we had to postpone celebrating our marriage due to Covid. Even when I was kind of not ready to be pregnant each month I got my period was a mini-disappointment on its own, and now that we've had our wedding celebration and there is nothing coming up that would cause us to wait or interfere with being pregnant, it is a little more devastating each month to not be pregnant. I would recommend not putting any of that on yourself before your honeymoon and just waiting until after to start TTC. Enjoy your honeymoon, travel and drink without worry, and then start baby making once you are back home.

Whatever anyone tells u will not be helpful IMO. I’d start w tracking ur cycle and ovulation. That will tell u when YOU ovulate and are most fertile!
Case and point… most women ovulate I think about day 14 of their cycle turned out I am day 24… highly unusual but also I have always had issues with my cycle.. wouldn’t have known unless I tested

It took us 6mo to get pregnant each time. Im also prone to miscarriages because of hormones so I need Progesterone pills to sustain the pregnancy in the first few weeks. I haven’t read all the comments but whenever you start, I recommend using ovulation prediction kits (opks) to track if you are ovulating or not. Also track your periods to get an ovulation window estimate, then use OPKs to fine tune when you are actually ovulating. Good luck!

Sorry didn’t realize I already commented on this!!