Trying to include family in wedding planning—rant

I am so frustrated and feel very much like some of my family doesn’t give 2 hoots about my wedding or my feelings associated with it, and when I try expressing this I’m shut out and made to feel like I’m being a bridezilla or dramatic. I don’t know how to handle this other than just shutting down and wanting to cry non stop.


My parents divorced when I was 14, and dad is remarried. Mom passed when I was 21. My dad and step mom live in another state, so they came out this weekend with the goal of doing some wedding planning. Specifically attire because my step mom has been asking what we want her to wear, despite me saying I’m not picking that out for her. Well this whole weekend has become an emotional waste of time. I invited my sister (who also lives in another state) to come out for the weekend as well. She threw a fit yesterday while we were out, saying all I care about is “stupid wedding planning” even though she was told when I invited her that the purpose of the weekend is wedding stuff…so now anytime my dad starts discussion on wedding things she either leaves the room or changes the conversation. I was going to ask her to do the reading during the ceremony, but now I don’t want to. My step mother doesn’t want to discuss anything either, and we had plans of seeing the venue and doing other window shopping for today, she decided she wanted to sleep all day and not go with to anything.