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Congratulations!!!
Anyway you can change it to a spa party instead? Lol
I have heard of people informing the catering staff and they provide NA bubbly for the bride. Best wishes!

Congratulations! That's amazing! I agree with PP I'm seeing if the party plans can maybe be changed. As far as not telling anyone, the only thing I can think of is to say you're on some antibiotics you can't mix with alcohol. I'm usually not in favor of lying but 🤷‍♀️

Congratulations! You can also just say your stomach isn’t feeling well that day

*Controversial opinion* but having a nip of alcohol should be ok if you need to 'blend in'.

I would speak to the bartenders in advance at both the bachelorette and wedding and ask if perhaps they can organise to give you sparkling water or perhaps coca cola or pepsi so you can mask your 'mixed' drink and otherwise not consume alcohol. If it can be arranged, so long as the bartenders know to give you non-alcohol drinks, no one will have any reason to assume you aren't drinking.

Not the most glamorous option, but a friend would take her beer or vodka soda with her to the bathroom or outdoors and dump ... but talking to the bartenders is the cheaper option!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. If you aren’t wanting anyone to know, you can always inform the bartender and they can mask it for you.

I think just tell them. If they are all your closest friends they should be in the know, no matter what the outcome. Happened to a friend and took the stress out of the entire day


And congratulations!!

Tell them your hormone levels are off, and you have been advised not to drink til you have tests, or til they return to normal. you put off dealing with it until til after the wedding. But drinking will make you all emotional and weepy with your body chemistry out of whack. And you are avoiding that. Which is all semi-true. Most newly pregnant women do get super emotional, easily, due to hormone shifts. And drinking lowers your inhibitions about showing it. Congratulations!

It is also easy to shut people up, when you remind them how personal period stuff is. 😄

Tell them that you're on antibiotics and ask if you can change the party plans so you aren't tempted to drink

Congratulations! Does anyone in your party know you have been trying? You could tell at least one person maybe MOH who can act as a referee of sorts when people try to get you to drink. You might be able to call ahead to the mixology class and ask about non alcoholic options. For Distillery tour, dump when no ones looking or tell the tour guide ahead of time you need non alcoholic. I really wouldn’t of make up an elaborate story for not drinking but could say you don’t feel like it or well and maybe between you and your person you can avoid ever being questioned.
I drink soda water and lime when I don’t feel like drinking but want to fit in. Sounds like you’re more bourbon than vodka? Maybe coke with a maraschino cherry or orange garnishes will make it look more cocktail. For the wedding request non alcoholic bubbly or wine from the bartenders ahead of time.

Congrats.

You can absolutely ask the staff to serve you differently.

On my wedding day I was so busy chating and hugging and dancing I had little time to drink.

You tell your bridesmaids / bachelorette party in person, and re: Wedding you don’t say anything. If someone asks say you’ve been too busy to even grab a drink or you’re stomach has been in knots (“anxious”) and haven’t wanted to indulge yet.

Congratulations!!!! We are TTC so I am laying off the booze. I’ve just been telling people I’m on a cleanse. If they don’t believe me, they aren’t saying so lol. You could try that?