Ugh, I need bouncers at my wedding

I really wouldn't mind all that much, but this girl just THRIVES off controversy. That was the one thing that bothered me about her when we WERE somewhat friends.. She likes fighting and causing drama and bringing attention to herself. I really don't want her at the wedding, because she's bound to do something stupid. I would like to say- well she isn't that dumb to do something like that on someone's wedding day.. But really she is lol

Apparently she made the comment to another mutual friend that she "can't wait to wear white to the wedding and cause shit to stir" whatever that means.. FS wants his friend there, so not inviting him isn't an option.. But I have a feeling even if I leave off the "and guest" on his invite that he'd bring her anyway.. What should I do?!

I would talk to him or have FH talk to him about what she said and just express your concerns about her intentions. That makes her boyfriend responsible for her actions. And if he is as good of a friend to your FH as you think he is, he won't bring her if she shows up in a white dress looking to cause drama.

Maybe your fiance can talk to him about it? I mean, if she's going to cause drama don't allow him to bring her. Period.

If he's going with his family, and knows plenty of people there, he doesn't need a plus one. If he's that close to FH, then he should be able to talk to him about it and ask him not to bring her, or to clarify what she said.

He's not really that great of a friend.. Just a childhood friend (he was close to him then, not now) that we went to highschool with. They're mainly invited bc FS's parents are still close with his parents. The guy is actually equally as dumb and immature about stuff..

AND her best friend is one of the GM's girlfriends, and I'm sure she'll be there. And she's really good at egging things on, which would make things so much worse.

I completely agree with Ana T.

That's just extremely sad on her part. I would talk to FH about it, to maybe talk to the friend, especially if FH's parents are still close to his parents. It would be better to talk to him now and maybe some sense can be knocked into her not to behave like a child in front of her b/f, his family, FH, you and all of your guest. Really what does that say of her?? I hate drama with a passion.

Well, maybe your parents can discuss it with his then. I'm sure if they all go together, one of the moms can step in if she shows up in w little white dress, looking for a fight.

You must live in a small town? I'm with Analy. Talk to the 'rents about your concerns....if something DOES go down, they need to know that YOU don't need to know about it! It's YOUR day!

Ha when I read your title I thought you were going to be talking about those bounce house things for the kids! haha! Sorry to hear you have to deal with drama.

Sorry about the drama too. I had a similar concern but the diff was I already had 5 people on the guest list that would have beat her a$$ if she showed up.....once they knew the deal I really wasn't worried. This is your day.....if she would dare try to ruin it God help her......literally. Good luck.

I don't understand why you can't just tell him that she is not invited. I have placecards with everyone's names on them. My day of coordinator will make sure that everyone has a placecard and is seated at the appropriate table. There will not be any extra guests.

I would address the invite to him and him only. When he RSVP's for two, call and tell him that you are unablet o accomodate his guest, and you had to cut alot of friends and family already. Give the parents a head up also, tell them that you're not allowing plus ones and if he mentions it, or his parents mention it, tell them to noify them that the invite was for him only.

I agree...just tell him, "No plus One's."

On a wedding day, the happy couple should not have to deal with drama at all.

Why does the childhood friend have ot be invited? They aren't close at all. Invite the parents, be blunt on the invites with the names of who is invited, and leave both drama queen and not so great 'friend' off the list.

Otherwise, invite him on his parents invite, without a plus one. When it comes down to it- FH can tell him that he is welcome, but his girlfriend is not. Then, maybe neither of them will show up anyway.

I agree with @mrslibrgurl

Yeah I think you should designate a small group of parents or aunts and uncles to just be able to keep an eye out and in case of any issues they are there to control the situation before anyone notices. If she is already planning to stir up crap at your wedding, you may want to inform this old friend and his parents and let them know that you really want them there but you will not tolerate her drama at the wedding.

I'd straight up tell them theres no room for guests

Without reading other comments, I will say, I am sorry that this is happening to you.

Social media/the Internet, has created a far more fugly animal than simple school yard bullying used to entail.

Now, using this media to your advantage....since this piece of dirt has said that she wants to wear white to your wedding, how about posting somewhere, even if it is only to those around her, that you want guests to wear white. Bet she will show up in red. LOL!