Ugly Wedding Invitations

Use the thank you's and rsvp's like you want and the just send her and maybe that family those invites

@lital, that's from the A Practical Wedding handbook! I'm reading it right now, and that has become my mantra.

I would just go with something like "I really appreciate the thought, but they don't really go with the style/color/etc I have in mind."

She could always save them for her own wedding if she is still single since she likes them. Honestly, I find it really presumptuous to buy just about anything much less something like invitations for someone elses wedding without talking to them first.

I don't think they're ugly.. but if you are really set on not using then, I'd tell her you decided to go bin a different direction but that you really appreciated the thought.

They are really not my style either.

Picking out invitations is just so fun, I imagine that's why she did it; but tell her that was something you were really looking forward to doing yourself and you already had something different in mind. Are those the print yourself invites? Or do they already have your names on it? She knew what to write for the start time and location, etc?

Did she have them printed too?

They aren't what I would choose, either. I would just do as others have suggested--tell her they don't fit the theme or color of your wedding and that even though you appreciate the thought, you would prefer to buy your own.

But I agree that it is weird to buy someone else's wedding invitations!

If they aren't your style just start over. That's a strange thing to purchase for someone else.

They aren't ugly, however it's a bit odd she would buy you invitations when she didn't even know what the theme or colors of your wedding would be. I know she was just trying to help, but if you don't really like them and don't want to use them, just be honest about it to her. I'm sure she will understand. It's your day and you can do what you want.

I would tell her that you appreciate the thought, but you already have your heart set on something else.

Yeah totally ugly . I would just send them to her and anyone she's knows .

Be honest. that you really appreciate the thought but you had something else in mind. It doesn't matter the size of your budget, whatever details you plan in your wedding counts. For me, the invitation was a very big deal. It was the first thing, a glimpse, of what they had to look forward to with my wedding. Don't settle.

Who buys someone else's wedding invitations without asking first? That is one of the oddest things I have ever heard of! One of the most enjoyable parts of wedding planning was choosing our invites together. Just say thanks but no thanks!

They aren't my cup of tea. Then again, the invites were a HUGE deal to me. I would be a little annoyed if someone bought my invitations for me without checking with me first. Just send one to her so she thinks you used them. HA!

I absolutely don't think that they are ugly but if they aren't your taste they aren't your taste. Just say thanks and use something else.

She already ordered invitation for you for your wedding that's over a year away?!

Are they personalised with your wedding details already?!?!

Are they blank cards you print on yourself? If so, Just put them away somewhere and use them another time. Or gently tell her you already had something else picked out and ask her if its possible for her to bring them back so she doesn't waste her money. I mean... Its your husband's sister. She shouldn't be too offended.

Speak up now. Do it now before she keeps doing these favors. To her, she is helping, she is doing a nice thing. Which is completely true, BUT it doesn't help at all if you don't like them and won't use them. I let DH's family do way to much to "help" and then hours before the ceremony I exploded! They probably think I'm absolutely insane now but I'm the type of person that is afraid to hurt someone's feelings and then the little things build up until I can't take it anymore!

Same questions as Kristy. How did she order them right when you got engaged? Are they already printed or did she buy a template? I'm confused.

I also find it odd that she would do this? However maybe use them for a bridal shower? Or the rehersal dinner?

It's your wedding, you need to do what you want. While the thought was nice, just let her know that you appreciate the effort but you decided you wanted a different stationary or color.

You're the one who's doing the planning and maybe even putting your own money into it. It's your big day, you need to happy and not stress about something.

What others have mentioned, just use it as a bridal shower invitation or thank you notes if you are worried about hurting her feelings.