So things haven’t been working out with my aunt, who is my coordinator. it seems like after it getting more closer to the date we’ve argued more about religion, she tells me I will regret my decision when I disagree with her advice, and she doesn’t like my fiancé and doesn’t want to work with him etc and finally I told her that I was looking for someone else to coordinate me but would love to have her help to continue planning if she wanted to lend a hand.
Mom ripped into me saying I ruined everything. Sister said she I’m dumb and am being naive and crazy so close to the wedding to change things (ie 4 months). I feel that breaking my relationship and fighting with my aunt isn’t worth having her a sa coordinator. Mom tells me because my aunt can’t have kids she is all I have and lays the ultimatum: if I hire some floozy to take over all my aunts hard work on the day of my wedding then my mom says she is not coming to my wedding. that she’s doing this for me, and she wants me to be happy.
Basically I feel trapped now. I have no say in this because I want my mother there for my day, and can’t believe she would hold that against me to force me to work with my aunt. The thought of working with her makes me feel resentful, angry, bitter. But can I not have my mother at my wedding????