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Just Said Yes August 2016

Unasking a bridesmaid

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Andrea, on April 25, 2016 at 12:32 PM

So I had wanted my sisters to be my bridesmaids in my wedding. I have 4 of them. The one is only 9 so she is helping my daughter who is 1 be a flower girl. So I have the 3 sisters and my future sister in law to be my bridesmaids. My moh is mad at me because I had asked my one sister who I haven't seen in about 3 -5 years to be my bridesmaid. The one I haven't seen in a long time and one of my other sister lives in a different province so I don't see them often anyways. But out of both of them i see the one more than the other. My moh who is also my sister is more mad about the fact that the sister I haven't seen in awhile is into the drugs and smoking. When we were younger I used to go visit my dad and 2 sisters every summer. And the one I haven't seen in a couple years, her and I were close when I did visit them. Any advice on how I should approach this and what should I do. I don't want to upset her or anything. But I know it more then likely will.

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VIP June 2016
Rebecca · on April 25, 2016 at 12:50 PM
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No. It's as simple as that. Do not un-ask you sister to be your bridesmaid.
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Master April 2016
LizzyC · on April 25, 2016 at 12:51 PM
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IT'S YOUR SISTER FFS!!! Just because you haven't seen her in a few years doesn't make her un-your sister.

Seriously? Am I on another planet???
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Master October 2015
Kmess · on April 25, 2016 at 12:55 PM
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What is even going on with this post?!
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VIP July 2016
Kactus Kat · on April 25, 2016 at 12:58 PM
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Options:
1. Keep your sister as a bridesmaid.
2. Be a horrible person and end your relationship with your sister so that you have even sides.

Why is #2 even an option?!
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Master September 2015
Promike · on April 25, 2016 at 1:00 PM
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Un-ask is NOT a word.
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Master September 2016
JoRocka · on April 25, 2016 at 1:01 PM
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You're fucking serious aren't you?
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ba ba ha baw ha ha ha ba.
I can't.
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Super August 2023
Margaret · on April 25, 2016 at 1:02 PM
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I would like to un-read the post... but I can't. And no, you don't un-ask your sister. Are you kidding me?
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Super October 2016
Cynthia · on April 25, 2016 at 1:12 PM
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@Honeylife - thinking the same thing.
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Expert December 2016
Pahina2016 · on April 25, 2016 at 1:16 PM
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"Into the drugs"
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Master July 2015
Nicole · on April 25, 2016 at 1:35 PM
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So your MOH is one of your sisters and she wants you to unask your other sisters because you don't see them often and one of them is into drugs. Next time she says something just ask her, "Why do you care? They are my sisters and I want them in it." She does not get any say in this matter. When she is a bride someday, she can choose whether or not to include her own sisters.
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caitiemac · on April 25, 2016 at 1:41 PM
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Is this a real thing?
You asked her for a reason, if you didn't think it was a good idea why did you ask her in the first place? This is not something you can just "un-ask" her, this is something that is relationship ruining. This is one of the rudest things a person you can do.

"Hey you were good enough when I didn't think to hard, but now that I have you're out."

Please rethink this decision for the sake of your relationship unless you no longer want one.
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Master October 2015
OG Ruth · on April 25, 2016 at 2:32 PM
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However you say it: Un-asking, firing, kicking out is a dick move.
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Master September 2014
OG Mrs.K (2.0) · on April 25, 2016 at 2:34 PM
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Complete dick move.
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Master July 2017
Lauren17 · on April 25, 2016 at 2:35 PM
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Don't do that- that's terrible!

It's your wedding and you can have who you want in the bridal party. MOH needs to relax.

I can imagine your sister would be very hurt if you "un-asked" her to be a BM.

Terrible idea... I wouldn't do it!
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Jacks · on April 25, 2016 at 4:05 PM
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You approach this by not un-asking someone from your wedding party. She's done nothing wrong, not to you or to your F. Asking her not to be a BM now would be terribly hurtful to her. A ring on your finger doesn't give you special permission to be a dick.
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