Under $10,000 Elopement (long distance engagement)

There is no announcement. I was just keeping track of where the money was going since it was sometimes difficult for me to find realistic numbers for people getting married who are long distance who are not set on a traditional format. I wasn't expecting such emotional responses but this works best for us since we want to have a nice getaway and celebrate with others at other times (no gifts requested.) I've seen nice weddings with guests for the same price but that is just not what we are wanting to do.

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There’s quite a few couples on here that’s planning while long distance.

We’re not posting emotional responses, we’ve asked questions. We’ve stated opinions. I think most of us are confused as to why moving costs are included in the wedding budget. We’re moving next August, and that’s a completely separate spreadsheet, and budget.

I understand that tons of people get married after courting long distance and many couples may also want an audience, family and friends to celebrate. I’m happy with questions, that’s why I posted this. I did not like the automatic assumption that we are trying to “grab gifts” because we are having celebrations in two separate states for our families. I also didn’t like that the decision to post statistics meant that I was money obsessed, including the budget in the announcement, or that I wanted to get funded with a “Go Fund Me” account. To all of those who asked reasonable questions or gave suggestions on how to not offend more traditional folks who may be expecting a traditional wedding, I thank you. I included moving costs because for me, when I think back to the time in my life that I decided to wed, we did have to pay for one significant other to move to the new home.

$2,443 is the cost of the elopement package at the French Manor Inn and Spa. The $10,000 is everything we will be paying for to celebrate our wedding. This includes many things that are included in the above explanation and photo for reference. This venue (The French Manor Inn and Spa) is a great choice for anyone interested in the Poconos.

I'm confused where this summary and budget will be posted. If it is just for your record keeping, ok, but if it's your wedding announcement or a page you will advertise to others that is super weird.

Also, you shouldn't invite anyone to a shower who isn't invited to your wedding. This is why I'm not having a shower. A shower is for gifts and only people invited to the wedding should be "asked" for gifts by being asked to attend a shower. It's the price you pay for an elopement or small wedding- no shower. You can have a bridal luncheon or going away party- those are no gift events.

Nothing says shower anywhere. Nothing says that the monies included in the above image is an announcement. My only question was if anyone else on here has decided to enjoy a nice wedding weekend without guests as I will. Some have said yes, and others do not like this idea for themselves. To each their own.

Ok I see what you mean. I’m assuming the church will mostly just “shower” us with words of wisdom since they understand that we are not having a wedding with guests and that we are relocating and don’t need much. Most of the events with others are being hosted by others just as a response to us saying we are getting married, but we are thankful. We do want to host a vow renewal ourselves in the future because we think kept vows are something important to celebrate. No pressure for anyone to attend the vow renewal at the later date, but beating divorce odds is great. Apologies if the third person wording was confusing at the top- the only audience for that image is for discussion purposes (like on this site.)

Okay, I definitely understand better now. We had approx 25 guests, because our kids would have KILLED us if we got married without them, but I hope your elopement is everything you want it to be.