Underage bridesmaid

Both of my sisters were underage and were the ones planning my bach party. We went to Gatlinburg for the weekend. They have all those moonshine and wine tastings along the strip so when the rest of the bridesmaids and I were participating in that, they shopped in a couple stores next to the place. They volunteered to be the DD's and were totally cool with us spending a half hour at the tasting places. At night, we stayed in our condo so they could enjoy drinking with us. It actually worked out great and they were happy they still got to participate in some drinking with us.

Your sister is being really rude. Your BM's feelings would be so hurt if she found out your sister had that kind of attitude. Sis needs to get over herself and realize she was wrong for planning something that not everyone can participate in in the first place. And while I understand the idea of trying to get her in by having her as your DD, that would probably be a slap in the face to her.

I agree with La Grosera, no one wants to watch everyone else get drunk and party while they sip on soda, especially when you are one year away from being legal. It would be different if you were having a drink or two at a dinner party, but to go to a club and watch everyone drink, that's just not fun. She may put on a happy face but that doesn't mean she is happy.

I don't know of any places but I definitely recommend changing your plans so all can be involved - assuming she's a bridesmaid so she's important to you in your life, you'd want her there. I would scrap any of the places you were planning on going that can't include her

You need to change your events if you have someone under age, you can't leave her behind that would be rude, who ever planned the event needs to rethink her plans to accommodate everyone.

My nieces will be underage when I get married and they are going to be bridesmaids...since they can't go on traditional bachelorette parties, I am going to do a spa day with them.

In North Carolina where I am from it's 18+ to get into a strip club, so I was thinking maybe it might be the same in DC. When I googled male strip clubs in the DC the gay bar showed up a LOT of people go there for bachelorette parties or recommend it for bachelorette parties and that's why we were considering it, but it's 21 up. So that's why I want to suggest to my sister we hire a stripper to come to us or get a butler in the buff. Like I said before I don't want to go to a club, I just want to go to a really nice bar, piano bar, karaoke, whatever where we can have a few drinks, but that she can be included. And for those who asked, yes wants to come, and yes she has the money for the trip, not once in the whole bachelorette process has she said no I don't want to come. I need to do some more research but I feel like even the small bars that serve food are 21 up and in Raleigh a lot of the bars that serve some kind of food allow any age to come in, so I'm kinda having a difficult time as to how to look for some of these places.

Google 18+ clubs in DC. I know there are some clubs because I used to go to them. Granted this was like 10 years ago, but I'm sure they still exist. Also when I was underage going out in DC, I used to just borrow a friend's ID. Not necessarily recommending it, but I never got caught...

Maybe we could do a scavenger hunt one night?