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Just Said Yes November 2021

Uneven wedding party woes

Lauren, on May 24, 2021 at 11:22 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 10
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I need advice on what to do with my wedding party. I have 8 women that I’d like to include as bridesmaids and I really can’t budge on any of them as we have all been friends together since childhood. My fiancé only really has 2 men that he is close to (his younger brothers). I was thinking of asking 3 of my girlfriends to stand on my fiancé’s side but I’m afraid it might look off. I’m not sure what colors to dress everyone in and I’m getting concerned that they might think it’s weird or unfair to have to stand on his side. We’re all friends but idk I’m just feeling apprehensive. I know people do mixed-gender parties but it’s just awkward when all the women are my friends and now they have to walk down the aisle together but stand apart. I guess I wanted to know if anyone else has done this before (include pictures)!! Also would anyone personally have a problem with doing that if your best friend asked you to do it?

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Latest activity by Florida Marlins, on May 27, 2021 at 8:22 AM
  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    Uneven sides are no big deal. Have his people stand on his side and your people on yours.
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  • Victoria
    Devoted June 2020
    Victoria ·
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    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with uneven parties, or separation of your party if it visually looks better to you. My SO and I each had a MOH and a BM for our minimony last year- and my BM had something come up so we were uneven... and to top it off my two friends are just over 5 feet and I’m 5’9” and my 5’6” fiancé had a 5’10” and 6’2” attendants. We’re just a funny looking bunch really lol- but our pictures make me smile and that’s what I wanted when we talked about who to have with us.
    Do whatever will bring you peace- and I’m sure your friends will be happy to do whatever that is!
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    Expert April 2022
    Fred ·
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    It would be super weird to ask your girfriends to stand on his side, unless these girls and him are friends.
    "Also would anyone personally have a problem with doing that if your best friend asked you to do it?": if I know the partner well, why not? I don't know if I would accept but this is something I would consider, however: I would decline if I don't have a relationship with the friend's partner, this is the reason why I declined when my sister and her now husband asked me to be a groomsman. I would have accepted to be a bridesman though, but I've never been close to her husband so I declined.
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    Expert April 2022
    Fred ·
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    I feel like you are woried about what will your photos look like?

    Not a big deal! Your photographer will be creative and will take some shots like these:Uneven wedding party woes 1


    Uneven wedding party woes 2
    However: the traditional wedding party shot is not weird at all, for example:Uneven wedding party woes 3

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    There is nothing wrong with having uneven wedding parties. Have your friends stand on your side and his on his side.

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Uneven is fine. But if you want a more balanced look, then you can have 4 ladies and 1 guy on each side. Maybe each guy stands on the ends. Or they can stand between 2 bridesmaids,


    Basically your bridesmaids and groomsmen agreed to stand next to you two, in support of your union. So it doesn’t matter which side they stand on. Kinda like those ceremony signs some couples use that say “Pick a seat, Not a side”
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    Expert September 2021
    Marianne ·
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    Uneven wedding parties are totally fine! TBH I'd feel a little hurt to be delegated to standing on the other side, like I'm not as close or important to the bride as the ones that get to stand on her side, just so pictures look even. If you're concerned about ceremony pictures, maybe have only the best man and maid of honor actually standing with you two and the rest of the wedding party sitting in the front row?

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    Lady ·
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    This is not a big deal. Have 8 bridesmaids - they can walk down the aisle alone and the men can just come in from the side (the officiant and the groom do this all the time anyway).

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  • Melody
    Savvy April 2021
    Melody ·
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    I would do anything the bride wanted!


    Uneven or not, just keep those close to you, close to you!
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  • Florida Marlins
    Expert October 2017
    Florida Marlins ·
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    Uneven bridals parties are the norm these days. I had my two college age sons at my side, hubby had one male cousin. I will lovingly "warn" you: 8 bridesmaids is might get rough, lol. That is A LOT of female energy, lol!!!

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