Unfaithful fiancé

Cheating is a deal breaker for me (also for my husband). It would absolutely break the trust in our relationship. Cheating on someone shows a lack of respect for that person, regardless of whether or not your needs are being met, they've changed, you have grown apart, etc. If a partner truly values and respects you, they address issues with you before the cheating ever happens.

The foundation for a relationship needs to be trust and respect, and cheating demonstrates that those values are not held mutually in the relationship. I am so sorry you are going through this, but the one silver lining is that you found out prior to marriage, and you have the opportunity to call off your engagement and end your relationship before there are legal matters involved.

For what its worth, one of my friends is a serial cheater. I'm sure there are folks who make mistakes, learn from them, and don't repeat them, but it can also easily become a pattern of behavior. Whatever the temptation was this time could happen again, and, at least in adulthood, when you are talking serious relationships and co-habitation, I feel like cheating typically isn't a one time behavior.

Prior to meeting my husband I was in a 10 year relationship with a very toxic man, the first time he cheated he cried and begged and it pulls at your heart after so long you know. My life will be so different if I end this, I'll be all alone. Will I find someone else to really love me? These worries clouded my judgement so much and for years I continued to overlook the things that were tearing me apart, the things that broke me down to someone I could not recognize. I went into the relationship strong mind, strong will and a hell of a woman, I was left broken, scared, not able to speak up for myself etc. I wish I would have been able to do it then, who knows where I would have been today. But then I might have never met my husband who is above amazing and h helped me put back pieces together of myself I never thought possible. This moment is scary, I understand. Trust your gut feeling here, there are not many people who can turn this situation around and change completely. Wishing you the best of luck!

This is so awful, I'm sorry. It's a tough situation. But I would probably walk away. If he cheated, spending your money on a licensed professional won't change that. However, I would weigh a couple of things 1. if he's willing to be 100% honest and say this is what happened and it would never happen again. 2. was it emotional or physical. 3. and this is a tricky one-is he willing to switch jobs. Also, are you going to be able to trust him again? or will you be saying to yourself forever "who is he texting?".

My gut instinct says to walk away. But you're the only one who knows.

I am sorry If I were you I would have choice words for the women, I would call off the wedding and leave. I was in a toxic relationship for 9 years. and he tore me down, He would call me names and would cheat on me but I took him back because I loved him and who would want me? a fat mom with 7 kids. fast forward. I met my now fiance and he is incredible treats me amazingly well. He has stood up to the plate and is the father to all of my kids. I kick myself all the time for not leaving my ex sooner I stayed about 7 years too long. I was blessed to have 5 kids with him but I didn't deserve all of the abuse he gave me. please think about what type of man you deserve