Uninvite someone? Help!

This is tough, and definitely sounds like it depends on your relationship with your boss and the power dynamics at play.

Traditionally, I think bosses have been invited to large weddings so maybe that it the norm he is operating under.

If you believe your job/position and your relationship with your boss are secure enough to withstand an open discussion about a more intimate wedding (which does not include him), I would recommend that route via direct, in-person communication.

If not, it may not be worth fighting this battle, and just including him in the guest list.

View Quoted Comment She doesn't need to have either of these conversations with her boss. He was in the wrong, not her. She needs to not discuss it and hope he forgets about it. If he brings it up again, she needs to do what she should have done the first time: deflect or come up with an excuse ("we're keeping it to close family because of COVID," etc).

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Hi Jasmine - I'm not sure I would ever advise avoidance. While totally gross, the reality is that we don't often have power at work and may need our jobs and/or to not work in a toxic environment where our bosses misuse their power when we don't make them happy. It sucks/is unjust and it is also the case for many of us. Nobody is saying that she is "wrong", just being honest about the consequences (albeit crummy) that can come with this situation. She asked for recommendations, and I'm not telling her what she "needs" to do, just offering my perspective.