Uninvited Guest bought a gift

It’s just a gift. For all you know his mom used his Amazon account for free shipping. Even if it is from him, that doesn’t mean you need to invite him.

I'd wait and see when the package arrives in the mail. I wonder if his parents wanted to send something and asked for his help. Perhaps the gift is from them but, he sent it from his account.

Regardless, you don't need to reciprocate with an invite; just make sure you write a nice thank you card to him.

Calm down. It's just a gift. Write a thank you note and keep it moving.

This is so awkward omg I’m so sorry. Who buys a gift before they’ve received an invite...? Definitely wait until you receive the gift and the card. Like pp said it’s possible the parents used their son’s account. My family all uses the same amazon prime account and it’s under my brother’s name since he’s a student so he gets a discount. So every package I order from amazon has my brother’s name on it lol. It could be something like that!

View Quoted Comment It makes sense it he has the amazon prime account. I never thought about that.

But he also is the type that would just buy a gift too thinking he’s invited or whatever.. He was a little awkward whenever our parents got together.

View Quoted Comment How close are/were you with him?

View Quoted Comment Not very. More acquaintance than anything. I was never rude to him and would say hi if I saw him. We never hung out. Our parents would get together and do a bbq with a couple other sets of parents.

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The awkwardness makes sense, but you do not need to invite him. I've bought gifts for people whose weddings I wasn't attending and did not expect anything in return. Usually coworkers or people having a DW who I was close with.

Not if you were not already going to invite him. The old tradition of giving someone a gift on the occasion of their marriage, if they feel close to them and wish them well, has gotten mixed up for many people. Ideally, the only people you invite are very close to the couple, or their parent(s)Because of that closeness, it is assumed that everyone going will want yo give a gift. But when invitations ate extended to people who are not close, they should not be expected to give a gift that is more than a token hostess gift. And people not invited, for whatever reason, may send gifts anyways because they are happy for the couple. This does not mean they must be invited. Showers held by WP, family and friends of bride are different. There the hostesses are soliciting gifts, which they must not do if people are not invited. But a group of bride's friends not going to the wedding may decide themselves to have a shower with one group gift or many small ones. No one asked them to, but is a nice thing from coworkers, club members, etc. But they do not need to be added to the guest list either. Lots of people think that those who go to a wedding must give a gift, and those who don't go (not invited) don't give a gift. But really it depends on how close people feel to the couple. . I know people whose parents convinced them every relative to either parent, even if not known or rarely seen by couple, must be invited. Then parents and sometimes couple are upset half of guests sent no gift. And several close friends, whom couple did not invite because cousins took all spots, these uninvited friends all sent gifts. Really, it shows what a mistake it is to invite people you barely see socially because they are relatives, or many parents' friends, who come to party because invited, but just plain do not care about the couple enough to give a gift. Bad judgment making the guest list, to invite people who do not know you well enough to get a gift. If half your guests don't give gifts, and they are not unemployed, it is the couple and parents who are to blame if they are upset at receiving fee gifts. False expectations.

*few gifts*

I wouldn't worry. i got a handful of gifts off the registry from folks who weren't invited but got the info from my mom. i've also sent gifts to people whose weddings i wasn't invited to, usually more distant relatives/family friends.