Uninvited guests

Ewwwwwww I wouldn't want him there. And when you say past do you mean dated him/slept with him???? If so, why is she seeing him?? Thats tacky/nasty

By past, do we mean casual dating where nothing really happened / things never got to THAT point if you know what I mean.. or do you mean a legitimate relationship or person you slept with? No need to tell me because I know that it's personal but if it was not the casual dating where nothing happened I would say NO. It would make you and probably your FH uncomfortable.

Depends. If it were me, It would depend which guy & Which Past. If it was guy A, heck no, he would ruin it just to be spiteful. If it was guy B? Yeah, I probably wouldn't mind him being there. No reason a past should mean she can't bring him unless the aftermath was truly ugly if you ask me.

View Quoted Comment We hooked up. Totally against girl code that she’s even with him 🤷🏼‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Nope!! I don't blame you for not wanting him there

Yeah she shouldn’t have even started dating him. That’s against girl code. 🤦‍♀️ But I wouldn’t want him there either. I would tell her she can come by herself or not come at all. She should understand.

No he can’t come! Heck no!

Oh this is sooooo uncomfortable. I would simply say no.

I'd say no. She should understand why

Yeah no. I mean, she knows right? It’s your day, and at no point should your day be made awkward ya know

Thank you ladies! She is aware of my past with him and so is my FH. Obviously we both would feel very uncomfortable with him being there

Definitely not especially if they’re newly dating.

They started dating last year and were together a few months, broke up for about 6 months and just got back together last week 🙄

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Why is she even a bridesmaid????? If she was your friend she wouldn't have done that. Plus what if she wants to start bringing him to other events and double dates uggghhhhhh thats so awkward

Yes you invite him. My husband has been in two of my ex boyfriend’s weddings and I’ve attended both. It’s in the past and they are friends, that’s how we met 🤷🏻‍♀️ For us it was 9 years ago and just not a big deal. It’s a little weird at first but you get over it and respect your friends relationship.

Also girl code is ridiculous, this isn’t middle school. Your hook up does not make him ineligible to your friends if everyone can just be adults.

View Quoted Comment Yep. My best friend of over 20 years is married to one of my exes. I love their love for each other. He just wasn’t the right guy for me. This post is honestly a little ridiculous.

I’m going to disagree with the majority, you’ve obviously moved on and found someone to spend the rest of your life with. I would just swallow my feelings and be the bigger person and invite him and wish her the best with him.

I’m gonna ignore that it’s a hook up and just say for the fact that they have been dating for a short amount of time I wouldn’t want them at the wedding, but if they had been dating for years and they actually established a relationship, I would be fine with it. We’re with different people now and we have strong relationship. As long as I know my relationship with my fiancé is strong, I wouldn’t make a deal about it since we have all moved on to better relationships. Though, I wouldn’t let a bridesmaid invite a guest that I have to pay for if they just started dating.

Also, her boyfriend would know absolutely no one besides me and her and she’s in the wedding