Uninvited guests

One of my closest friends is a former hookup. We actually dated for 3 months. Had we done more of a wedding party, he'd have been in the wedding. He's invited with his girlfriend.

Point being that neither myself nor my FH care that a hookup I had years ago and remained good friends with will be in attendance at our wedding. In fact, FH likes him.

It's really a maturity thing. Unless some craziness went down and it was a serious relationship with bad blood, this shouldn't matter at all. I agree with one of the PP saying it's not middle school. Ultimately, though this is your call.

View Quoted Comment Don’t feel bad to decline his attendance to YOUR wedding. Maybe if it were HER wedding, she can bring him. 😂😂😂 That’s just my opinion 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think I would be getting rid of a brides maid Ttly a bad move what kind of friend does that

HELLS NO! Sorry, that just seems super disrespectful all the way around... and Im hard to get riled up normally.

View Quoted Comment What girl code? At family hometown, two colleges, and in the army, I dated guys who had had long term relationship s ( more than six months) with my friends, and they dated my past guys. At my wedding were a couple of guys I dated or lived with, where the primary one invited was the women friend I was still close to, who had married the guy . And some of hubby's ex girlfriends live with or are married to friends. At our wedding too. Then there were two guys I only briefly went out with in the service. Now married to each other. They came too.🙂 Explain your Girl Code, please.

It's your wedding girl. If you don't want him there then tell your bridesmaid he's not invited.

This is your day with your soulmate. I’m sure your Fiance wouldn’t want him there just as much as you don’t, guys usually just don’t voice that. Personally I would tell her you and your fiance aren’t comfortable having him there on that day. If she gets upset then it’s not meant to be to have her in your wedding. My bff is my photographer and she told me a few months ago you won’t imagine how many brides tell her they lost a couple bridesmaids due to drama or disagreements. Do what makes you comfortable!

I'd say no way!

It's already against girl code. That's a hard pass for me!!

If it make FH uncomfortable, then that’s a no.

It's against girl code but if you are happy with your current partner, why worry about old toys? I would do nothing and say nothing. Focus on your wedding, be happy for your friend and hope she has found happiness.

View Quoted Comment I’d say a hard no! Honestly if she were to insist I might choose a new bridesmaid to replace her! Girl code!!!

I'd say no. But it depends on the situation. As long as you and your future husband are comfortable with him being there and there's no weird feelings between anyone, then maybe it would be ok. But no matter what, it's YOUR wedding, and if YOU are going to be uncomfortable with this person being there, you shouldn't let them come.

I personally think it's rude of her to even ask to bring him, but that's just me.

It really depends on how you ended things. If you're fine with it, then I don't see any problems.

Depends on the level of intimacy reached. Regardless it’s waaaaay too awkward.

id just say the guest list is final and you can’t add more guests

If you have a past and ANY hesitation then don't let her bring him. We have a few people going we have a "past" with, but it's been a long time and we've stayed in touch. But if its someone you don't talk intentionally then no. It's an unhealed situation (uncomfortable), don't bring that to your wedding.

Maybe* one day you can be friends if they get serious but that's not a stress you need that day.

View Quoted Comment This. Enough said. They started dating again and the wedding is 4 weeks away? Sorry.

I would just let her know that you feel uncomfortable with him there since you guys have a past. I wouldn’t want him there either it’s just weird and awkward and you shouldn’t have to pretend to smile and pretend you are happy to see him.

“Girl code”?
How many times did you hook up and how long ago?
If only once, and a long time ago, then this is a little absurd not to invite him. I would think only if you had a serious thing with him then it would be okay to say “no”

This is just another reason why Plus ones can create problems. If she just started this relationship, say NO