Hi All! My April wedding was moved to this coming October, and we are now in the phase of reaching out to our guests to let them know we are proceeding with the wedding, but at a smaller capacity. We've decided to cut our guestlist from 250 to 50. Because of this, we prefer that only family attend, and since we both have large families, it's been difficult to narrow down the "VIPs". However, I've received pushback from two of my siblings whose significant others were originally invited the first time around.
My sister's live-in boyfriend wasn't even going to come to our wedding in April, but now she wants him to come this time around - and she gave me an absolute attitude when I suggested it would be family only. In fact, she told him to request vacation time, knowing what I already told her.
My brother wants his girlfriend (who I've met ONE time) to come still. I don't know her well and frankly, I don't know how well she's been social distancing. I only allowed him a plus-one the first time because he lacks common sense and invited her without asking me - and also because we had plenty of room at the time. That's not the case now.
I understand if they were friends or other family who were coming alone and would need a plus-one, but this is my immediate family. They will be surrounded by my other siblings and family, so I don't believe they need to HAVE a date. It's a family event - and at this point, it's not even for fun! I'm so frustrated and upset by this. I can't even have my own friends there anymore, but my siblings are expecting to bring theirs. If it was me, I would absolutely understand and leave my fiance at home!
Why are people so inconsiderate? Who does this? Wait - am I the inconsiderate one?! What should I do? *screams*