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Just Said Yes May 2021

Uninvolved Groom

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Jennifer, on November 4, 2020 at 5:16 PM

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Hi Brides,

Is anyone else experiencing a groom who could care less about any of the planning process? So this is my first marriage but my grooms second. I thought if anything, he’d be down for the food tasting/selection and he just told me he didn’t care and didn’t need to be there. He basically thinks a wedding is a waste of time and money.
Is anyone else dealing with a groom like this? I don’t have family here so I can’t substitute him for one of them. Also explaining myself to him is also out of the question because he’ll just say I’m overreacting. If you’ve dealt with something like this, how did you not let it bring you down? How did you work around it?
Thanks Brides!

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Kaysey · on November 6, 2020 at 10:38 AM
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I think it's normal for grooms to not be that involved in the planning process, especially with the little details b/c many of them are not as into weddings as we are. My husband really only helped with the guest list, seating chart and our alcohol order (we supplied all of the alcohol for our wedding). As far as the food went, he gave his input but ultimately told me it was my decision b/c he liked everything that we tried. If it were me, I'd try to get to the bottom of why he doesn't want to be involved at all. Is it b/c he's been through it before, or b/c he really just doesn't care about what the wedding looks like as long as you're happy? I'd say talk to him and find that out.
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Just Said Yes May 2021
Jessica · on November 6, 2020 at 9:18 PM
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My fiance literally told me to plan everything and he will just show up and wear what I tell him to wear, so I can relate to you. I think if there is constant friction in your conversations relating to this wedding, you both need to just sit down and talk about what marriage means to you and how the wedding will reflect your love that you have for each other. It's not about how beautiful the venue is or how tasty the food it is. It is literally a celebration of your love, and a time for both of you celebrate with family and friends.
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