Unique Wedding with no Officiant

Have you spoken to any officiant because most I have researched will personalize vows based on your liking.

Sooo we are doing a reception for our vow renewal... We never had a party when we did get married.
2 of our best friends will be officiating... And we are doing shots instead of ring exchange
Your wedding sounds like a blast!!!

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Yeah that's not an option for us. We don't want a stranger up there with us or in any of our pictures

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So does yours!!!!!!!

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I know nothing about this but ultimately as long as you do you legal matters with your state then you can do whatever you want with your wedding. Good luck.

I think that is such a good idea. Your wedding day is what you make it and what you want. We are doing a lot of non traditional things in our wedding as well. We had the same idea you did but then we ending wanting one of our friends to marry us.

My cousin and her husband did this! They were already married and did basically what you’re talking about! Perfect.

My cousin did something similar but still had a friend lead the ceremony for them. They opted to the unity knot which ties tour hands together and you each pull your side, tying the knot.


We did both a Catholic and non religious ceremony a week apart and we did a “Unity in Glass” for the non religious one. They mail you glass crystals to blend like a sand ceremony which could work if you’re doing a desert location. We mail them back once blended and they are melted and blown into a vase or other glass piece combining our colors as we’re combining lives. It’s a bit on the more expensive end but I loved that it was different. They offer a few different piece options which can vary in price.

I felt the same way that we didn’t want a stranger doing it so we had my brother officiate! It was really great and personal. Is online ordination allowed in your state? If so, having a relative or friend get ordained could be a good option.


Another option (if online ordination isn’t legal in your stats) is you could basically do your own ceremony, and hire an officiant JUST to do the formalities. Technically all an officiant needs to do to make a marriage legal is (1) hear you both agree that you “take” each other (ie saying “I do”) (2) verbally pronounce you (“I now pronounce you husband and wife”) and (3) sign your marriage license.
I went to a wedding recently where the couple had a family friend “officiate” their ceremony, but he wasn’t ordained or anything. Then for the last 2 minutes of the ceremony, the bride’s grandfather (who is an ordained minister) legally pronounced them.

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Wow i love this. thank you!

I just want to say, "Damn, Can I Come?" Lol Just kidding, but I love the fact that you two are brave enough to do your own thing in a liberal way....just free....I love it. The weed bar is awesome too. Lol CongratsXD

1. I am in the same boat no officiant and want to find a fun creative way to do the ceremony.
2. can we be friends? LOL i read this post like omg did i write this myself? is this me? haha

View Quoted Comment Hi Ashley! We’re about to celebrate our three year anniversary ) I’d be happy to answer any questions as we are SO happy we went with no officiant

View Quoted Comment Omg yesss tell me everything!

View Quoted Comment So this was 2020. Covid already pushed our wedding so we were bummed. We wanted to get married on our original 2020 date, so we did. Legally. Just paperwork, no celebration. Cut to 2021… we truly had no need to have someone up there with us.


So what we ended up doing was rather simple. He walked down the aisle with his parents, my dad walked me down. Once we got up there we turned to our audience and gave a joint speech thanking everyone for coming and explaining that we had already legally gotten married before the celebration. We wrote a super cute like 3/4 min speech and ended by saying something cute like “he’s gonna say I do, and then I’m gonna say I do, and then we’re gonna kiss and you guys are gonna cheer and clap” 😂 it was so fun. So then my husband did his vows, I did mine. And then we “asked” each other. Because we were legally already married he said “so, do you wanna keep being my wife?!” And I said I do and then I asked him “wanna keep being my husband?” And he said “I do”. We kissed, our friends cheered as directed, and the party began lol
It was so unique and felt so right for us even though we got a lot of weird comments when we told people what we were doing lol. I wouldn’t change it at all, it gave us a whole other level of intimacy I couldn’t have even expected with our guests and people still talk about how cool it was