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VIP October 2019

Unnecessary Pressure?

Jessica, on May 5, 2019 at 3:52 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 3

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I've been thinking about this a lot over the past week or so, especially today, but does anyone else put an unnecessary amount of pressure on themselves or in general regarding the wedding being "perfect"? FH and I have been together for 7 years and we really wanted a laid-back weekend for us to hang out with family and friends. I feel like throughout the planning process (engaged last July) there has been an increasing urge to feel like everything has to be Pinterest-worthy, picture perfect, but at the end of the day.. does it really matter? I will be married to the guy that I fell in love with many, many years ago and that is all that matters. Our wedding is 5 months exactly from today, and while I have a lot of planning left to do, I want to try to stop putting so much pressure on myself. Now I feel like I need a glass of wine.. haha. Anyone else feeling a similar way?

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Latest activity by Iva, on May 5, 2019 at 8:18 PM

Savvy October 2019
Emily · on May 5, 2019 at 4:52 PM
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I’m with you! Just over 5 months left for me and also engaged last July! I’m constantly reminding myself how much more I care about having a beautiful marriage than a beautiful wedding, even though I obviously want everything to go smoothly. But you’re totally right, what matters is the meaning behind the day. I could also totally use some wine.. lol. Cheers!
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Champion October 2018
Kelly · on May 5, 2019 at 5:09 PM
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That’s why I didn’t have a Pinterest! I also told myself from the beginning that if I didn’t have a strong opinion on something it wasn’t important and I shouldn’t spend a lot of time on it. Smaller things I cared about were our ketubah and invites. But lighting and furniture rentals I had zero opinion so I told my wedding planner to pick what was cheapest haha. I also just reminded myself what I did and didn’t notice at other people’s weddings to take the pressure off.
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Super September 2019
Iva · on May 5, 2019 at 8:18 PM
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Yep I think this is pretty common. We’re all inundated on daily basis with Pinterest & IG perfect photos & videos. It’s hard to fight it 😆

I have way too many creative ideas I want to bring to life for our wedding day. After we got engaged, it took only one sit down for me to come up with a full vision & every single detail haha.

But I don’t put pressure on myself that it has to be perfect, because nothing is perfect. And I also know that little details brides worry about are often not even noticed by the guests. The most important details guests care about or remember are: bride’s dress, ceremony especially if it’s very sweet or emotional, food/drinks & music. That’s it! So we just need to take a deep breath & remind ourselves that no matter what goes wrong our wedding day will be one of our best memories ever, because we’ll be marrying the love of our life ❤️
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