Unpopular Opinion: Honeymoons

View Quoted Comment I laughed way too hard at this 😂

You definitely don't have to take a honeymoon if you choose not to, but I don't think traveling and exploring other places or just spending time relaxing somewhere other than your home is ever a waste of money. Do you think any regular vacation is a waste of money? Because a honeymoon is just a vacation...

Someone could easily say you spending $20k on one day for a wedding is a waste of money too. As you said, if you want one cool. If you don't also cool. But I don't think your judgement of what is/isn't a waste of money is fair, which is why you're getting negative feedback on this.

View Quoted Comment Perhaps I should rephrase. For US it's a giant waste of money. Maybe it's not a waste for you or other people. People can do with their money as they please. I'm not shaming anyone. But like the title says unpopular opinon.

View Quoted Comment It doesn't seem in good faith. I'm perfectly fine though. I'm not trying to start an argument. But thank you

I agree with you.

A honeymoon is everything but necessary, so is the wedding reception. They are people's choices.

We are taking a honeymoon, but it's very similar to a normal vacation, we are just adding 2-3 unnecessary extras.
Honestly: who cares what you family says on this (or other decisions)?
I feel you because when a couple is not going the traditional route: unwanted opinions, pushback, backlash are unavoidable ... For example: My FW didn't want me to get her an engagement ring and we are having a non religious ceremony:. we just ignore the unwelcomed opinions and sometimes, when needed, we remind them "Whose wedding is it?". Those who hate our decisions are free to RSVP NO, including the parents,grandparents.

As long as you and your furure spouse are happy with your decisions, nothing else matters, particularly because you and FH are on the same page.

View Quoted Comment 😂 I’m glad!

I think if anything, the wedding is a total waste of 20K. My FH and I want both the wedding and the honeymoon, so we have accepted the price tag of both. But if we were only able to do one, we would ditch the wedding and spend all of that money on our trip without question!

Weddings are a giant waste of money.

$20k on a glorified party that is over in 8 hours and all you have left is pictures and possibly video, when you could spend $80 at the courthouse and be married just the same.

To think that's anything other than a big fat waste of money is pretty silly. But you can acknowledge it's a objectively big fat waste of money and still say, "I want to do it because it would make me happy." Subjectively, if a $20k party makes you happy, it's not a waste.

Same with honeymoons.

I personally don't think travel is a waste of money, honeymoon or otherwise. I'm looking forward to a "second honeymoon" with my husband after our vow renewal. And when we got married, we spent more on our honeymoon than the wedding, because for us, experiencing a new part of the world together was more important than a party.

But as you said, to each their own.

I LOVE to travel so for me this was going to be a trip that would happen regardless, didn't have to be called honeymoon though haha. but my husband and i even while dating always took at least one trip a year together. like what PP said, i don't find travel a waste of money.

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These are my thoughts exactly. Basically it comes down to having the confidence to own your choices. If you can do that, then it doesn't matter if random strangers on a message board or even friends and family don't agree with you. If you know you are making the right choice for yourself, then it doesn't feel like a personal attack if someone disagrees.

If you believe that a honeymoon is not worth it to you then that is fine. Everyone is going to have their own opinions. I wouldn't let your family or friends make you feel bad or whatever about it. Clearly that is not important to you to travel vs the actually wedding/reception. Honestly I would chose the honeymoon over a wedding every time. To me it/traveling is nice to just be able to relax and spend that private alone time w/ my new husband/SO. It's also a time you're able to be more intimate and grow with your significant other.

I get both sides. We were originally not going to do anything & save our money but we are both in the healthcare field on the front lines & after COVID, we are EXHAUSTED. So we decided you know what, lets get married & take a dang trip after. If anything, it's more to decompress, get away from every day stressors & let loose after a stressful year.

View Quoted Comment Well said...

You can do whatever you want Boo I actually think the wedding is the waste of money (even though we’re throwing a hell of a shindig)! My fiancé and I have been together for 15 years and our entire relationship has involved kids (I had an 8 month old baby boy when we got together). So the honeycomb will be our FIRST trip and time together WITHOUT the kids. I’m looking forward to enjoying it in Iceland with just HIM

View Quoted Comment Well said indeed!

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My thoughts exactly.

I mean if you’re already spending 20k, that’s a lot! We wanted to take a trip alone and a honeymoon was a good excuse to plan! You definitely don’t have to go on one though! There isn’t a rule lol We would’ve gone on this trip regardless, but because we went a few weeks after our wedding, it was labeled as our “honeymoon”!