Unpopular Wedding Opinions

I think it's ok to send your invitations out earlier than 6-8 weeks before your wedding, but everyone says you shouldn't send them out earlier than that.

Mine is highly unpopular, even though some people agree:

In fact there are 2 rules in 1:
1: We are not inviting anyone who hasn't met THE TWO of us BEFORE we got engaged among family, parents' friends and parents' extended families (all friends of mine already met my FH and vice-versa) . BEFORE we got engaged because of our parents: they would introduce people to us that we don't a know but we know we won't see them after... so: NO!

And 2: As for the spouses,partners of our “main guests”: we are only inviting those that we both met or will meet BEFORE our RSVP due date. The rule is not “ if we know them” but them being introduced to us (2 minutes on the street or via webcam is fine) because we don't want anyone to be introduced to us on the day of. We told our folks ahead of time, no one was offended, a few were surprised but took it well... in “real life” but here , about 80-85% of WWers would say it's crazy/rude.

And not inviting partners and even spouses that the couple don't/barely know is not that uncommon in my area.

Only very close friends and family get a plus one 🙃

I actually can see your point of view totally about the favors! i think people think edible favors are popular because it's very likely to be consumed within a shorter time span than for some stuff like shot glasses to just be left there, etc. but i've also seen really really practical favors being given out and those are fine too!

Lol I love the disclaimer because I'm sure the etiquette police are waiting in the wings 😂

Mine is that gaps aren't that bad. Most religious ceremonies are in the morning/ early afternoon, and I'd rather entertain myself for a few hours in the afternoon and attend an evening reception than attend an afternoon reception where nobody wants to dance because people drink way less. If I'm someplace I'm not familiar with, I'd rather be on my own while it's light out than during the night, and if I'm near where I live, it gives me time to let the dog out, grab a bite to eat, etc. I'm an adult, and I can figure out how to entertain myself for a few hours on a day people are paying thousands of dollars for.

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I can see your point. some people think it's rude but cmon.. if your budget can only hold 100 people then would you rather have 7 people you DON'T know just because it's etiquette to invite them vs inviting 7 people you DO know. everyone is going to say "make more of a budget then to invite all the plus ones etc" but sometimes you literally have a space and budget issue and can't move it around to accommodate every single person.

My unpopular opinions:

Bridal showers are gift grabby.
Everyone should get a plus one (didn't know this was unpopular until WW).
Bachelorette 'weekend getaways' (cant really call it a party) have gotten out of hand.

Mine are that Engagement parties and showers, before the weddings are too much gift/ money grabbing. 2 of the 3 is okay, all 3 is overkill.


Guest books remind me of funerals. Not doing one. Aren’t pictures enough proof of guests?
Sweetheart tables are lame. I want to sit down to eat with my closest crew. We are only having MOH and BM, so it’s them and our parents at our table.

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I agree with all of your unpopular opinions.

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I agree with guest books. I know myself. I don't want a bunch of cards (or paper ephemera or whatever) cluttering up my house that I don't feel comfortable throwing out, but also know I'll never look at ever again.

We did bottles of wine from the winery our wedding was held at instead of a guest book - we have wine for for years 1, 5 and 10, and then a bottle of whisky for year 25. It will be nice to open up the bottle, read all the signatures on it, and enjoy it together remembering our wedding on our anniversary - but then it will be flung out without any kind of guilt.

We also asked for NO whole-of-group shots as both of us hate them. They take forever, you can't really see the majority of your guests anyway, and half of them are blinking or have an awkward expression. Plus, of all the photos of the day, that's not the one you're likely to get printed and hang on your wall - it's just not. On our wedding day, some pushy relative insisted on one, so we do have one, and guess what? You can't see everyone, it took forever and half of the expressions (including ours!) are silly, haha!

Hello if that's what you want at your wedding that's cool do what makes your wedding reception. Some ppl who ask us just aren't unsure of what too do. This what is makes all ours wedding day and reception different of all the unique different types of things that you will have that may not be at another wedding. Is what every Bride here wants that different from the rest I hope that this Hope's it's your wedding reception do you.

View Quoted Comment I agree. I think those optional parties are awkward and gift grabby.


Dressing adults in matching dresses is infantile. As a guest, I don't want to see anything personal about your love story-- not throwback photos, or speeches with inside jokes that alienate everyone else.

Favours, gifts labelled with the wedding date or "bridesmaid" are only there for the wedding industry to make money.

I can't stand the garter or bouquet throwing. I think they are super cringey and few of my friends care about getting married next, let alone at all. I can't stand when the bride is in an enormous, elaborate princess dress, and the groom is a tiny, plain back tuxedo hidden behind her, like it's all about her, or their outfits don't match at all (clashing styles/colors). My FH and I are going to wear complimentary outfits, with our wedding colors blended into each of them. I am also weirded out by bachelor/ette parties that are about getting drunk or seeing strippers, etc. To me, my wedding is about connection and well-being, not trashing myself or lusting after other guys. My FH is in the same boat. It is cool that we all get to plan our own things, in our own ways 😊 💒 And THANK YOU to the guestbook people. Photos and cards are enough for me!! Phew, that was therapeutic. Lol 😅

Wearing a white wedding gown is ridiculously overrated. Wear whatever color you want in whatever style you want.

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There is another one I was thinking about but I forgot 🤦‍♀️:
I think that if people wanna throw 1 (or more) pre-wedding event(s) you don't want , it's OK to say NO and if they insist, it's still OK to say you won't attend!
My parents insist on an eng. party, some family want to throw a bridal or co-ed shower but I don't like them, neither does my fiancé... we (kindly but firmly) warned them that we wouldn't show up .If you can't stand up for yourself,can't say NO about things that are all about you, you'll never do it.

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You know it 😂😂

1. 90% of couples who "go over their budget" do so because they don't know how to "budget" in the first place.

2. Being able to put down payments on a wedding vendors and paying in full before the wedding does not mean that they can "afford" the wedding they have.

3. The more unnecessary stress, effort , and $$ you spend on wedding planning = the more disappointed you will be when things go wrong and greater chance you will be posting a "I hated my wedding" post.

View Quoted Comment Me too!!! We sent pretty early and still had a good response rate by our deadline! I noticed the same people say that over and over 😂