Unprofessional Society

This is just a rant. Kind of long so thanks to whoever is reading. just sort of stressed. I feel like professionalism in the wedding industry is very hard to find. Across-the-board from seamstresses to vendors to venues.


Also to note, what I’m about to rant is not going to be “get what you pay for “ type of situations either. My fiancé and I did tons of research and we initially got engaged and we planned a year and a half out because we wanted to budget properly and to only hire the best of the best in our state. When we first started dating 10 years ago we were at some points struggling to make ends meet and giving it all we had to work hard towards a better life to get to where we are now financially. so when we started talking about wedding planning we knew we were going to have what we feel will be our dream wedding.
My wedding is like 22 days away or something. Throughout this entire process, the only person that I can unequivocally say was/is wonderful and professional is my DJ! And yes we plan on tipping him an extra 1k at the end of the night and no not just because we saved more money than we expected for the whole wedding, but because my DJ truly has been thee best professional throughout our process.
I’m really not a demanding person at all! But as an example, I called my seamstress today because I still have the hem and the bustle to be done. She Completely didn’t even know what else needed to be done with my dress. She did say that the first half has been completed as far as sleeves go, but never called me to schedule my next fitting and basically with so little words said if I hadn’t called she wasn’t going to call me because of how busy she is.(another one that’s supposedly the best in the state). She then tells me my hem and bustle have to be done separately, with separate fittings and she doesn’t know if she will ‘have enough time to do my bustle but she’ll try”!!!! I have a second dress for dancing so at this point I’m about ready to say forget the bustle.
With my second dress I got, I initially ordered my dress I knew what size I would need, and even tried on the same size/designer similar dress at the store. The girl who measured me measured me a whopping three sizes bigger than what I knew I was/needed. When I said ‘ but this is my size and this dress fits me perfectly(when I had on the comparable dress) she said well then we should get the next size up just to be on the safe side. As suggested by the pros, I get the next size up and it came in and I tried it on and of course it’s big, so now they have to alter it down to the initial size that I said I should get on top of all of the other alterations it needs as far as hemming. And now I have to spend more money when I could’ve just gotten the proper size in the first place. Thank God I didn’t order the size she suggested initially from her measurements!
Next up is my fiancé‘s shirt. Different place. ‘supposedly so good’. He got a custom shirt made with his initials on it etc. it came in, and they never called him when it came in. He had to call them. He then goes and tries it on and it is super huge! So they did alterations. It took them a while it seemed so he finally decided to call them. They initially had no idea where his shirt was. They found it and then called him and said oh yeah it’s done you can come pick it up it’s been done for a while! He goes to pick it up and it still needed more to be done! They then tell him OK we will try to squeeze it in in time for your wedding!
We planned on doing DIY floral and we still are, but we had so much money left over that we saved for the wedding that I wanted to get a floral consultation because it would’ve been one less thing we would’ve had to worry about. Went in to inquire and they said sure we will call you to set up a consultation for Saturday. They never called. figured at that point it would be much less stressful to continue with our diy plan for all floral as I’m obviously more reliable than the professionals.
My venue has been a pain this entire time with various things. Videographer completely blew off an appointment and pulled no call and didn’t even acknowledge they missed the appointment they requested btw. When I asked them ‘if I wrote down the time wrong(trying to be nice), they said ‘oh yeah sry bout that, anywho...’
I don’t know, I just feel like in this day and age it’s very difficult to find professionals.
Even at the beginning of our planning there were many other places that outright didn’t even return calls or were total flakes or just outright rude.
After all is said and done, it’s just been an overall shocking experience.
I know my wedding is going to be amazing, but everything would’ve been a lot less stressful if people were more professional.