So I have been with my FH a total of 8 yrs. We got engaged last December. Almost a yr since we have been engaged Our relationship has had many ups and downs and of course when the downs came I called upon my family for advice, guidance, and support. There have been moments my family has adored my FH and there have been moments they have absolutely HATED him.
When we got engaged my mother was very happy and 2 out of 4 of my brothers were happy. My other 2 brothers seemed happy at first but the truth came out that they were not so keen on the idea and are waiting for it to fail.
They pretend to be happy but are secretly not wanting the wedding to take place. Not sure how to deal with that. Then comes my sister in law (my brothers wife)....she is not the nicest person. Very judgmental and snobbish. My brother and her got engaged at the happiest place on earth, the next day they were fighting. So I had my concerns too for their relationship. They did not get married until 3 yrs after the engagement and a child later. But my brother seemed happy so I was happy for him. They eloped with only close friends and me representing the rest of my family. They have been together for almost 10 yrs and have 2 children. They def have their ups and downs too but what couple doesn't.
So I was visiting them this weekend and we talked about wedding stuff....I had to bring it up. My 2 nephews are the ring bearers. My SIL mentioned going away in the spring to the tropics. I just said great as long as you keep my wedding date free. She responded "that depends if you actually go through with it". I said I ordered/bought my dress. She said that doesn't matter.
I was very hurt by this comment. My brother seemed to share her thoughts. My other brother supports me and as long as I am happy he is happy. Just seems like SIL wants it to fail, is jealous that we are getting married with an actual wedding, and she doesn't want me to be happy.
How do I deal with unsupportive family or two faced family? I want to still be so happy and excited about the wedding but others thoughts and comments are hurting and upsetting me. I am a very analytic person as well as emotional....oh and a people pleaser. What a combination!! FH said to ignore the comments and actions of others but it is very hard for me. Anyone else like me deal with this?