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Unsupportive in-laws

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hally, on September 10, 2012 at 10:41 PM

My fiancé and I just got engaged and his parents aren't exactly supportive. They are actually pretty furious. We have dated for two years we even waited last year when we wanted to get engaged when his parents said they didn't agree cause they didn't know me. So I moved closer so I could actaully spend time getting to know them and we waited a year now a year later we got engaged and try have freaked. His mom has been saying these really hurtfull things about me and our relationship that plain and simple aren't true at all. I have never felt so hurt in my life by what she is doing. She has even taken to publicly posting stuff on Facebook about how she doesn't support this union at all. I don't know what to do I'm trying to stay nice and trying to forgive her for what she is doing but it's tough.

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Mrs. C · on September 11, 2012 at 2:03 PM
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Wow. Ouch, that hurts. The posting on Facebook is just wrong...she's an adult, come on. If they have a problem with you, maybe they should talk to you about it. If that doesn't help, then maybe they should just say nothing.
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Mrs. S™ · on September 11, 2012 at 2:06 PM
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Does your FH go to gatherings you're not invited to? And that seems to defeat the purpose of getting to know you?
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hally · on September 11, 2012 at 2:14 PM
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He doesn't go to them either he doesn't think it's right but it's been a year of her saying this and she still does it whenever she invites him to something. She has pretty much pushed him out of her life by acting the way she is acting and yet the more he steps away the more she pushes and tries to guilt trip him which then in turns pushes him farther away.
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Robin A. · on September 11, 2012 at 2:15 PM
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Even good MILs can be b****es sometimes. Hopefully she will gain perspective. You have found the place to vent! Doing it here rather than to your FH is much better. I agree, you don't want to badmouth people who clearly care about him a great deal and who have raised him.

Remember, their saving grace is that they raised your wonderful FH and without them, he wouldn't be who he is. Obviously he is a wonderful person because you are getting married! They are partially responsible for him being the way he is, so there must be something good about them. Even if it takes you years to find it, hopefully you will and they will also realize how happy you make your FH.
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Bad Wolf .. · on September 11, 2012 at 2:37 PM
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It's her problem. Not yours. I agree with MJ, cut off all contact and maybe one day she will grow up.
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