My fiance and I have been together for a while and recently we officially became engaged. As much as we are certain to get married and finally start our lives together, my mom isn't so supportive. I actually haven't told her that I'm engaged yet since we JUST got engaged but I know that her response would definitely crush me.
My mom and I haven't had the best relationship since my grandpa died in 2015. We are very emotionally distant with each other, we have our fun and happy moments but we mostly have negative moments. It's been going on for years. I've only introduced two boyfriends to her, my ex and my fiance and she both had her harsh opinions I could see her side when I was with my ex because he was actually pretty emotionally abusive but I just wish she would stop seeing the bad in my fiance. She wasn't always like this with him, in the beginning she was real excited I finally found someone that I was happy with but some things have happened with both of us and his family and she isn't very supportive about us anymore. So an engagement announcement could possibly ruin our relationship even more and end up not speaking to me ever again. It's not like we're getting married anytime soon, with our wedding set at the end of next year.
I am fairly young and about to graduate in May so I understand that she might think that I'm too young to get married. I still have my whole life ahead of me but I am for certain that I have met the man of my dreams. In the past, I've been in numerous abusive relationships, one after another, and I thought for a while that all guys were the same until I met my fiance. Immediately, we both felt a connection that brought us together and before you know it, we became inseparable. And the best part, he isn't abusive. But there are some things that do creep up in our relationship that happened to both of us in the past.
My mom kind of disapproves the relationship, not because of him but how his family is. I admit they are a little...crazy, but he is actually the only one in his family that is not unstable. He is certain about his future and how he wants to support me and our children. He actually has been asking me to marry him from like the 3rd month of our relationship. But I do understand why my mom disapproves, but I just wish she saw him as a person and not how his family is.
