Unsupportive parent behavior

I'm sorry to hear about your mother's passing and that fact that you dad has been unsupportive during this happy/stressful time of your life.

Our families aren't supportive for us either. Which is another reason we are doing a planned elopement. All I can really say is that maybe he is finding it hard to be of any help because he thought he would be doing and talking about these thing with your mother. My father has made it difficult for me to want to included him, with his comments of just do it all at the courthouse. There was one time I asked him if he wanted to walk me down the aisle, me think that is a stupid question and that he'd say of course I'll walk my only daughter down the aisle, but instead he just said I don't know yet, I'll think about it.

I came to realize during this planning process the only ones who really matter are my FH and I and those decide to help and/or who show up. I know this really won't help but I hope you find comfort in knowing that your not the only one who is doing alone.

I'm sorry for your loss.

I would just stop sharing anything with your father. If he wants to show up on the day, he'll get an invitation.